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An insightful look at the science behind love, Attached offers listeners a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections.

Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, Psychiatrist and Neuroscientist Amir Levine and Psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory - the most advanced relationship science in existence today - can help us find and sustain love.

Pioneered by Psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment explains that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

  • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner’s ability to love them back.
  • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
  • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

With fascinating psychological insight, quizzes and case studies, Dr Amir Levine and Rachel Heller help you understand the three attachment styles, identify your own and recognize the styles of others so that you can find compatible partners or improve your existing relationship.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio on our Desktop Site.

©2010 Amir Levine and Rachel Heller (P)2010 Penguin Random House LLC

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"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship." (John Gray, PhD., best-selling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

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Great book for people who are avoidant/anxious

Great introduction to understanding relationships. secondly get an insight into what drive healthy relationships. must try

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  • Lehza
  • 23-02-21

Life changing

Highly recommended if you or your partner struggle with attachment issues. The book combines science based research with practical steps for the layperson. Truly life changing.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 27-08-20

Incredible!!!

If only we learnt this stuff at a school... and if only id got my hands on this sooner! WOW! Don’t hesitate, snag it! ;)

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-09-20

great book

great book, opened my eyes. i'm an avoidant and anxious person and I really need this. thank you

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  • karl
  • 10-02-21

Shallow and imbalanced.

I found out that I have an avoidant attachment ok, I mean the author wil let you know repeatedly! The book is dragging, with this repetitive story of an anxious girl meeting an avoidant guy. I guess that the msg conveyed is that there arent many avoidant attached women out there! Boq ! And did not talk theoretically on how to handle such insecure people or heal oneself in this case.

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  • Ross Holmes
  • 25-01-21

Very insightful

Great way of breaking down the science & psychology of how we get attached & practical for moving forward with your current or future romantic relationships. Would recommend to most.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 12-01-21

The book I was looking for!

I think everybody should read this book and I certainly wish I had read it sooner. I'd done a little reading about attachment theory before, but this book really spells it out to you with clear examples. It does a great job of letting you know that there are reasons behind your behaviour and they are not your fault, but shows you ways to change them for the better. It's made me feel more confident about dating and about being in relationships and asking for what I need rather than trying to hide it.

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  • ShoppingCarmen
  • 03-01-21

Mind blowing!

This book is so helpful in many ways. Understanding my attachment style already helped me communicate better with my loved ones. I also feel more tolerant about others. About to re read (or rather listen) again! Great work.

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  • Shaun Solomon
  • 13-07-20

Excellent book! Compulsory reading!

Very well laid out and concepts explained clearly. I am a massive avoider and this has helped me a great deal in understanding how I can be a much better partner and become my true authentic self.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 23-02-21

Insightful

Can be a bit repetitive, but it was worth the read. Learned a lot from this and the narrator was interesting enough to keep listening.

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  • Kevin Edwards
  • 21-02-21

Absolute game changer

I feel everyone should read this book. Just been dumped or dumped someone? Definitely read this.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-02-21

Brilliant! A must read/listen for everyone!

One of the best books I have listed to! So accurate and helpful. Like holding up a mirror. seriously read this book!

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  • Steph
  • 08-02-21

loved it!

Really helped me understand my own attachment style and how to spot others.
The attached PDF was also very helpful and the narrator's voice is clear and calming. I would highly recommend!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 27-07-20

READ SOMETHING THAT WILL HELP YOU

This book is correct in diagnosis, but wrong, in its advice to find your perfect partner, just as you are.
Either ignorant or kind to say we are good-enough as we are. The strategies are state Self-less love, in an overly complex way. To consider the effect of our words, choices that effect Others is reverse engineering.
Start with loving intention for the greater good, seek possibilities thru a lenz of Self-Less Love, and perceive and co-resourcefully create and act in pursuit of our highest good. Be present, appreciative and grateful for your life and to share life with the Other, for whom, you should have unconditional positive regard.
Negative, selfish thought ends life. it is not a state of growth. It is martyrdom, taking as many down with you. All of our programming can be addressed, insightfully. DIY at that.

If you need to an objective ear ask a few therapists. They are trained to keep their personal bias out of the issues.

At the end of the day ... our purpose is
BE the One, not find the One.
BEcome our best Self, to beget the love of Others. BE the light and you shall receive accordingly. Ghandi, Martin Luther King, G Jung, Alan Watts, Buddhah and of course our most renowned earthly sovereign, JC.

All of us should be working towards personal development.
Not ignore the weeds in our own backyard. Or, accept they are there.

The cure to our pain is to integrate our fragmented child SELF within, who speaks with anger, judgement, and critisisms generations old.
The voice in our mind.
Who WE are, our Spiritual, immortality, is our Soul, our mind's witness to the voices of the child. Our reptilian Amagydalan.

Accepting our Scrooge programming is with absence of malice, integrity, accountability and empathy for Our Self, in need of acceptance by us.

What could be more wonderful then to learn what you need, heal it, and to recognise and give the Other what they need. If you don't bother to do any personal development, you might unknowingly cause the very harm to another, that was caused you. Mirroring. That which you think of another, is TRUE of our Self.

G Jung,
Those who endeavour to come to terms with themselves must reckon with this BASIC problem. For to the degree we deny the Other, we deny the Other within Ourselves the right to exist.

Spiritually Scientific Psychotherapy

G Jung, G Maté, M Epstein, G Hendricks, Abraham Hicks, Pema Chodron, ACIM, G Chapman and more, will show you the spiritual approach to DIY heal your Child-Self and - create everything in your life, your way. A new, compassionate, empathic and better you. Your True Self. Not an image. Six months tops!!
You can BE archetype on the outside, not a mask, covering your TRUE Self.
The disempowered, underdeveloped, neglected child.

Love and peace is present within our Self, in every moment.

Get busy! - Coping with diagnosis is not a cure.

For becoming ever wiser, tolerant and kinder IS appropriate to ever changing life for as long as we live.
Best wishes

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  • Gabriella
  • 05-01-21

Accompanying PDF incomplete

Good book overall, however the PDF document doesn’t include the relationship inventory example answers to put in the provided table. When listening to the book, the narrator states that these examples are provided below the relationship inventory table however audible hasn’t included this. It makes it a lot more difficult to complete the exercise.

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  • Ieva
  • 25-01-21

Amazing, easy to listen to and simply a must

loved this book a lot. found myself in many of the examples given. it's a fundamental information

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  • Raykel
  • 20-01-21

Everyone should listen or read this

Absolute reading must. You will learn about yourself and others. Easy to listen too, easy to understand.

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  • P J Boyce
  • 15-01-21

Amazing

A must read for everyone, regardless of there current relationship status. I wish I had read this sooner.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 27-12-20

Essential Read

This book is one of the few resources that exists, which educates people regarding relationships. They are a inherent biological desire which should not be left to chance.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-10-20

Game changer

The simplest, most practical guide to navigating the complexity I've relationships I've ever read. 10/10 recommend.

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  • Robyn
  • 24-09-20

For everyone dating or in a relationship

Incredible info about why you behave in particular ways in relationships and learn and understand your partner or potential partner.
Gives you practical tools to use. You will listen more than once!

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  • Denee
  • 21-09-20

Life changing

I wish I read this years ago. I’d already started formulating similar thoughts re: me and my relationships, I finished the book yesterday and I’m already seeing the benefits

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  • MW
  • 16-09-20

great read. more diversity needed in relationships

I loved this book. It would be great to have more diversity demonstrated in the relationship examples though (they were all heterosexual examples).