Episode Summary:

In this episode of Rewired for Love, host JaCarie Owens explores why love can feel overwhelming, activating, and anxiety-inducing, especially for people with anxious attachment and relational trauma. JaCarie breaks down how attachment wounds form, how trauma lives in the body, and why our nervous system often reacts before our logic can catch up.

Using real-life examples, cultural context, and compassionate nervous system education, this episode helps listeners understand that anxious attachment is not a flaw but a survival response shaped by inconsistency, loss, and chronic stress.

Listeners are guided through practical tools for grounding, self-compassion, and beginning the process of rewiring attachment patterns toward safety and security.

Key Takeaways:

• Anxious attachment develops when love is felt to be inconsistent or unpredictable.

• Trauma lives in the body, which is why anxiety shows up before logic.

• Love can feel unsafe when the nervous system associates closeness with survival.

• Cultural and generational trauma can intensify attachment anxiety.

• Overthinking, reassurance seeking, and fear of abandonment are protective strategies.

• Healing anxious attachment starts with safety, not self-judgment.

• Secure attachment is built through repeated experiences of calm and consistency.

  
  

Reflection and Practices from the Episode:

• Naming anxiety as a nervous system response rather than a personal failure.

• Grounding the body through breath, touch, and safety cues.

• Practicing receiving care without earning or performing for it.

• Offering compassion to the younger parts of yourself that learned to stay alert.

• Communicating needs in relationships without shame.

  
  

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Timestamps:

00:00 Introduction and recap of the Rewired for Love foundation

02:00 Why love feels like anxiety and how anxious attachment forms

06:00 How trauma and the nervous system shape relationship patterns

10:00 Anxious attachment in daily life and relationships

13:00 Grounding tools and nervous system regulation

16:00 Inner child and parts work for attachment healing

18:30 Reframing connection and practicing secure attachment

21:00 Weekly reflection, affirmations, and closing

Music Credits: Music by FASSounds from Pixabay