Ever leave a call certain you were ignored, only to realize the format and your state stacked the deck? That’s where we start: a three-person coaching session, one of us driving and audio-only, and a story that morphed from “I was dismissed” into “what really happened here?” We unpack how missing nonverbal cues, split attention, and a hunger for validation can twist the read on even well-meaning people.

We take you inside the inner monologue, the death cycle of “I’m not good enough,” fueled by pride that wants gold-star questions and empathy that turns into self-accusation. Then we slow it down. What if the tech made it hard to be heard? What if our client weighted male feedback more in that moment? What if we trained others to expect us at any cost, even when conditions are wrong? Those may not excuse the sting, but they explain the friction and return agency. We share practical resets: pause the call when you can’t contribute well, switch mediums, name what you notice, and ask for space to finish a thought. Curiosity, What else could be true?, beats rumination every time.

We also talk about faith as a fast reset. A short prayer to notice God’s presence can cut the spiral when logic won’t. Sleep helps too; a rested mind writes kinder drafts. By morning, we remembered the bigger picture: this group has affirmed us before, the client got the clarity they needed, and one awkward slice doesn’t define the whole pie. For levity, we trade headlines about a candy-obsessed bear and a Nessie researcher calling it quits after five decades, because humor loosens tight stories and makes space for grace.

If you’ve ever felt sidelined on a call, this conversation offers tools to reclaim your voice without burning bridges: context over conclusions, generosity over judgment, and clear requests over quiet resentment. Listen, share with a friend who overthinks, and tell us: what question helps you stop the negative loop fastest? Subscribe, leave a review, and drop your thoughts, we’d love to hear how you pivot when emotions spike.

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