If you’ve ever felt like you’re asking for “too much” while your partner feels overwhelmed by emotional closeness, you may be caught in the anxious–avoidant attachment cycle. In this episode, we break down how anxious and avoidant attachment styles trigger each other’s deepest wounds—creating a loop of pursuit, withdrawal, resentment, and longing. We’ll explore what’s really happening beneath the surface, why logic doesn’t fix attachment pain, and what healing looks like for both sides of the dynamic. This episode blends attachment theory with compassion, clarity, and practical insight for anyone wanting healthier, more secure relationships.

Further reading: Attached by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller and Secure Love by Julie Menanno.

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