After a breakup, it's common to hear advice telling you to "reconnect with yourself" and "build your self-worth." But knowing what to do and knowing how to do it — or whether it's actually helping — are very different things.

In this episode, I explore why so many people feel stuck after a breakup, even when they're doing everything they're told should help. We look at what happens when self-worth has historically come from external validation, why breakups can feel like a loss of identity, and how the nervous system seeks reassurance when emotional safety is suddenly removed.

I talk about why healing doesn't always feel better straight away, how to recognise whether your efforts are genuinely supporting you, and how to tell the difference between discomfort that's part of growth and patterns that may be keeping you stuck. This episode also explores how self-worth is rebuilt through self-trust, emotional self-containment, and learning to stay with yourself during difficult emotions — rather than outsourcing them.

This conversation is for anyone who feels lost after a breakup, questions whether they're healing "correctly," or wants a deeper understanding of what rebuilding self-worth actually looks like in real life.

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