Generational trauma shows up as “normal” family patterns—guilt, fear, silent treatment, people-pleasing—and it quietly shapes your nervous system. In this Boundaries & Banter episode, Taryn & Michela talk about how it’s passed down, how it impacts boundaries, and what it really takes to break the cycle.

We unpack:

What generational trauma is (and what it isn’t)

Survival patterns: guilt, obligation, fear-based parenting, silence

How immigration + safety fears can live in your body decades later

Why breaking patterns often means disappointing someone

The “owing” narrative: why gratitude doesn’t cancel autonomy

No-contact conversations online—and what people miss without context

A listener story: a Persian mom terrified of “losing” her daughter

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00:00 – Generational trauma: why this matters
00:27 – Definition: how trauma passes down through patterns
01:25 – Common examples: silence, guilt, fear, obligation
02:18 – Breaking the cycle: can you recognize it?
02:30 – Our South Africa story: living in constant fear
04:31 – Why “panic mode” becomes your default
06:50 – Immigrant trauma: “I can’t fail” mindset
08:49 – Body image + food patterns passed down
11:20 – How it shows up: people-pleasing, apologizing, fear of conflict
13:10 – Why boundaries feel like danger
15:16 – The no-contact debate: what people don’t understand
18:27 – Step one: recognize it. Step two: choose change
19:04 – The hardest part: disappointing someone
22:28 – “Your child doesn’t owe you” (and why that’s healing)
24:33 – Listener story: Persian mom, 28-year-old daughter moving away
26:06 – Our take: let her go, keep her close
30:07 – Would You Rather: honesty vs resentment
31:00 – Would you rather: viral fight vs unresolved pain
31:54 – Wrap

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