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This week, we have a true full-circle moment on the show. After listening to our recent episode with Kevin Klinger on referee mindset, Regional Referee Alex Perez sent in an incredible email about how he immediately applied those lessons during a grueling college showcase weekend. We were so moved by his story—and how he turned a potential on-field disaster into a success—that we immediately invited him on the pod to share his experience firsthand.

Based in West Virginia, Alex is a USSF Regional Referee and National Candidate who officiates in major collegiate pools like the ACC and Big 12, as well as USL2 matches. Beyond the whistle, he is a dedicated mentor and assigner committed to building the next generation of officials. Alex views the pitch as a "high-speed leadership lab," balancing technical mastery with the emotional intelligence required to manage the game's biggest personalities.

In this episode, Alex takes us inside the "8 PM Wall"—that specific moment of physical and mental exhaustion during a tournament when patience wears thin. He opens up about a specific U19 match where fatigue triggered a snarky response to a player, and how he used a specific "breathe and reset" technique to regain control. We discuss the importance of body language, how to make allies on the pitch, and how he turned a hostile environment into a game where players were swapping jerseys with him at the final whistle.

We also dive into the "suitcase life" of a traveling official (including Alex’s intense "Rule of 3" packing strategy) and share one of the funniest heckler stories involving a mustache that you will ever hear. Plus, we have special offers from our sponsors, Refersports and Umpiro, to help you upgrade your assigning software and your footwear. You are going to love the honesty, humility, and energy Alex brings to the show!

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