In this episode, Sharon and Rae unpack a surprisingly common barrier to healing after betrayal trauma — "Cat Poster Thinking" the mindset of believing "I already know how this works" or relying on clichés, platitudes, and intellectual over-control to cope. And while it may feel protective, it can quietly block real growth, connection, and emotional transformation.

This episode also helps the Unfaithful see how they self-limit their own growth in recovery.

Together they explore:
✨ Why betrayed partners crave control after trauma
✨ How trauma filters your perception and limits what you can "see"
✨ Why intellectual insight alone can't heal a shattered heart
✨ What happens when you try to think your way out of pain
✨ How over-talking, over-explaining, and "knowing everything" disconnects you from help
✨ How to shift from head-level knowing → to heart-level healing
✨ Why receiving guidance from a trained professional is essential
✨ What real, embodied healing looks and feels like
✨ How betrayed partners can carry too much of the emotional load without being aware of it
✨ How to let go of the urge to lead, fix, or parent your unfaithful partner
✨ Simple questions & practices to move from superficial coping to deep, meaningful change

This is an episode filled with stories, real-life clinical examples, neurobiological insight, and grounded wisdom. If you're stuck in trauma responses, struggling to trust your therapist, or feeling disconnected from your own healing, this conversation is for you.

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