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How and Why You Love the Way You Do, It’s An Adaptation

How and Why You Love the Way You Do, It’s An Adaptation

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We trace how early experiences teach our bodies what love feels like and how those lessons shape anxious, avoidant, disorganized, and secure patterns. We share body-based tools and compassionate questions that turn reactivity into choice and repair.

• attachment as adaptation not identity
• overview of anxious, avoidant, disorganized, secure
• polyvagal safety cues and survival states
• real-life signs in texting, conflict, and closeness
• self-inquiry to map “what kept me safe”
• tools to name patterns and slow the body
• separating past from present during triggers
• compassion and repair as secure moves
• healing through therapy and consistent relationships
• journal prompts to invite awareness and change

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Show hosted by:

Catia Hernandez Holm, LMFT-A

Supervised by Susan Gonzales, LMFT-S, LPC-S


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