Have you ever felt like you're doing all the things… and it still doesn't feel like enough?

In this warm, honest episode, Allie interviews author, speaker, and neuroscience coach Robyn Graham, who gets real about perfectionism—where it comes from, why it shows up so strongly for so many girls and women, and how it quietly messes with our mental health, relationships, and even our faith. If you've ever struggled with the pressure to "keep it together," look a certain way, or perform your way into being worthy… you're not alone.

Together, they unpack the roots of perfectionism (hello, culture and social media), what's actually happening in your brain and nervous system when you're stuck in overdrive, and why calming your body is a huge part of healing your mind. You'll also walk away with practical tools—like small mindset shifts and simple language changes—that can help you step out of the exhausting cycle of striving.

This conversation is full of grace, truth, and deep exhale energy—a reminder that you don't have to earn rest, love, or wholeness. You're allowed to be human… and still be held.

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Show Notes

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Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Perfectionism
02:11 Understanding Perfectionism and Its Impact
02:44 NEWCHAPTER
03:27 Robin's Personal Journey with Perfectionism
06:06 Cultural Influences on Perfectionism
10:50 The Control-Perfectionism-Anxiety Connection
13:05 Pursuing Excellence vs. Striving for Perfection
18:12 Practical Mindset and Language Shifts
24:29 Neuroscience of Perfectionism
28:44 Regulating the Nervous System
33:18 Final Encouragement and Hope