How to set boundaries when it doesn't feel safe yet

Setting boundaries is often framed as empowering — but for many women, it feels anything but safe.
In this episode of The Low & Slow Podcast, Crystal and Laken unpack why boundary-setting can feel emotionally charged, confusing, or even threatening, especially when you’ve been conditioned to prioritize harmony, performance, or other people’s needs over your own.
They explore how emotional avoidance can quietly masquerade as boundaries, and why real boundaries require emotional presence, self-regulation, and self-loyalty — not shutdown or distance.
This conversation starts where most boundary work is missed: with yourself. Crystal and Laken walk listeners through how to build internal safety first, involve the nervous system, and collect “reps” of staying with your own emotions before taking boundaries into bigger spaces like the workplace, relationships, and family dynamics.
Rather than focusing on perfect scripts or outcomes, this episode reframes boundaries as a relationship with yourself — one built through honesty, regulation, and staying present through discomfort.
✨ If you’ve ever felt like boundaries “don’t work,” leave you spiraling afterward, or feel unsafe to set — this episode offers a slower, more sustainable way forward.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why boundaries can feel unsafe even when they’re necessary


How emotional avoidance can look like “healthy” boundary-setting

Why self-regulation comes before communication

How to practice boundaries internally before externally

What self-loyalty actually looks like in real life

How to bring boundaries into work, relationships, and family with more clarity

Breathe low. Stay with yourself.
That’s where real boundaries begin. 🤍

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