Why do you cringe at things you said years ago?
Why do other people’s awkward moments make you physically recoil?

Cringing is a self-conscious emotion tied to shame, belonging, and internalised social rules. It’s your nervous system trying to protect you from rejection.

In Episode 21 I talk about:

• What cringing actually is from a psychological perspective
• Why you judge yourself so harshly for past behaviour
• Why you cringe at other people for being “too much” or "embarrassing"
• How conditional approval shapes your internal rulebook
• The shame loop: rumination, replaying, and self-punishment
• Why highly empathetic or hyper-vigilant people cringe more
• How to respond with curiosity instead of self-abandonment and judgement

Cringing doesn’t mean you’re cruel.
It means something inside you learned that being visible wasn’t safe.

This is honest, uncomfortable self-reflection. Sit with it.

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