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Brother, if you’re tired of being the “nice guy” who stays quiet when you should speak… this episode is for you.
In this powerful episode of The Sacred Gentleman Podcast, Steve Gartner challenges the modern Christian idea that “being nice” is the highest virtue. He exposes how slogans like WWJD (What Would Jesus Do?) have often been flattened into a passive version of faith that produces quiet, avoidant, and spiritually harmless men.
Jesus did not die and rise again to create men who are easily manipulated by comfort-driven Christianity. He calls men to righteousness, discernment, courage, and spiritual authority.
You’ll learn how to discern when Christ is calling you to be gentle… and when He’s calling you to be firm — and how to lead your home, marriage, children, and life with steady, grounded, Christ-centered strength.
If your faith has started to feel more like a muzzle than a mission, this episode will pull that into the light.
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🔥 In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
•Why “niceness” is not the same as holiness or righteousness
•How WWJD became a shortcut for avoiding discernment
•The difference between gentleness and compliance
•Why Jesus was both tender and confrontational
•How to recognize manipulation, hypocrisy, and chronic disorder
•A simple discernment framework you can use in real time
•How to lead with calm authority instead of passivity or anger
•Practical examples for marriage, fatherhood, and work
•Three action steps to establish righteous order in your home
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⏱️ Timestamps
00:00 – Tired of being the “nice guy”
02:00 – How WWJD shaped modern Christian passivity
04:00 – When WWJD became “don’t confront, don’t judge”
06:20 – What if nice is keeping you from being righteous?
07:30 – John 8: Jesus, mercy, and “go and sin no more”
09:00 – The Sacred Gentleman Podcast intro
10:00 – The origin and purpose of WWJD
12:00 – Why discernment replaced slogans
13:40 – The “Nice Jesus” problem
15:00 – The cost of passive Christianity inside your home
16:30 – Defining niceness, holiness, and righteousness
19:00 – America’s righteousness deficit
20:10 – “Mind your own business” Christianity
23:00 – The myth of cultural neutrality
24:30 – Holy anger and protecting children
26:00 – Why men freeze or explode
27:00 – Jesus’ compassion and tenderness
29:00 – Gentle without fragile, compassionate without compliant
31:00 – The Jesus most churches avoid preaching
33:30 – Half of Jesus vs the whole Jesus
35:00 – Your home is a temple
36:00 – Reading John 8 like men
39:00 – Mercy + truth + restoration
41:00 – The discernment framework
42:00 – Two modes: Shepherd and King
45:00 – Strength is rarely loud
46:00 – Marriage example
47:30 – Fatherhood example
49:00 – Workplace example
50:00 – Traps to avoid
52:00 – Three reps for the next seven days
55:00 – Practical spiritual practices
57:00 – Stop being nice. Start chasing holiness.
58:00 – Day one is action

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