What does it really feel like when you meet someone and there are no fireworks—just clarity?

Last week, we unpacked how pop culture has trained us to chase intensity, mistake anxiety for attraction, and overlook the calm connections that actually have staying power. This week, we're getting personal.

In this episode, I sit down with my husband, Stephen, for an unscripted conversation about his own dating journey—what he experienced with butterflies in relationships before his first marriage, how he navigated dating after his divorce, and what it was actually like when he met me.

This isn't a polished interview. It's just a real conversation between two people who chose grounded connection over chaos—and it might just shift the way you think about what "the One" is supposed to feel like.

If you've ever wondered whether you're "settling" because someone doesn't give you butterflies, or if you've dismissed great people because the spark wasn't there, this episode will give you a lot to think about.

Because sometimes, the love of your life doesn't announce itself with fireworks. Sometimes it just feels like coming home.

🎧 Listen now—and start recognizing what real attraction feels like when your nervous system isn't bracing.

Reflect: Think about a time you felt calm and clear with someone. Did you dismiss it as "no chemistry," or did you lean in? What might change if you started valuing clarity over chaos?

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