In Episode 15 of The Reset, Shaun explores something most high performers struggle with:

Feeling like a failure…
even when you’re making progress.

This episode reframes momentum. Because if you only allow yourself to feel like you’re winning when you hit the big goal — you’ll spend most of your life feeling like you’re losing.

Shaun introduces two powerful shifts:

1. Learn to generate the feeling of winning before the destination.
2. Experiment with the “ingratitude practice” to access deeper gratitude.

Because real momentum isn’t external.
It’s embodied.

• Loving to win vs hating to lose
• Generating momentum internally
• Shame and guilt around not hitting goals
• Identity beyond comparison
• Experiencing sensations instead of intellectualising them
• The duality of gratitude and ingratitude
• Choice and willingness as power
• Moving from lack to abundance

“The power of realisation, when it’s truly felt, means you can move on to the next stage of your life.”

You can’t force gratitude.

You can’t think your way into feeling grateful.

Your body has to experience the contrast.

Sometimes you need to feel:

• Ungrateful
• Angry
• Disappointed
• Frustrated

Before gratitude becomes real.

If you feel like you’re failing, ask:

• What have I actually done this week?
• Where have I shown up?
• What have I learned?

Momentum builds when you allow yourself to feel like you’re winning.

Even if the destination isn’t reached yet.

Playing the game fully — win or lose — is where growth happens.

Instead of forcing gratitude:

1️⃣ Write down something you feel ungrateful for.
2️⃣ Notice what sensations arise in your body.
3️⃣ Fully experience the feeling without judgement.
4️⃣ Then ask: Is there another perspective available?

You are not trying to bypass the feeling.

You are integrating it.

Contrast creates clarity.

You are a one-in-a-trillion expression of life.

That alone is worth acknowledging.

But if you don’t feel it — that’s okay.

Feel what’s real first.

Then allow gratitude to grow from truth, not obligation.

If you know someone who feels like they’re constantly falling short, send this to them.