Chatter
The Voice in Our Head and How to Harness It
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Chatter
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Narrated by:
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Ethan Kross
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Ethan Kross
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One of the best new books of 2021 - Malcolm Gladwell, Susan Cain, Adam Grant, and Daniel H. Pink's Next Big Idea Club Winter 2021 Winning Selection, BBC Science Focus Magazine, The Washington Post, CNN Underscored, Apple Books, Shape, Behavioral Scientist, Mindbodygreen, POPSUGAR, Kirkus Reviews, Publishers Weekly, and Shelf Awareness starred reviews.
One of the best new books of January 2021 - BBC Science Focus Magazine, The Washington Post, CNN Underscored, Shape, Behavioral Scientist, Kirkus Reviews and Publishers Weekly starred reviews.
As featured in Apple's 'Best Audiobooks of 2021 so far'!
Turn your inner voice from critic to coach.
We all have a voice in our head. We tune into its endless chatter to look for guidance, ideas and wisdom. Except sometimes, this voice leads us down a rabbit hole of negative self-talk and endless rumination.
These silent conversations are so powerful they can sink our mood, trip us up and even impact our health. How can we take back control? This is the question award-winning psychologist Ethan Kross set out to answer 20 years ago when he began an audacious mission - to study the conversations we have with ourselves.
In Chatter, Kross interweaves cutting-edge science with real-world case studies to explain how these inner conversations shape our work and relationships. Then he reveals the tools you need to harness your own voice so that you can be happier, healthier and more productive.
Brilliantly argued and expertly researched, Chatter will explain how the conversations we have with ourselves shape our lives and will give you the power to change them.
©2021 Ethan Kross (P)2021 Penguin AudioCritic Reviews
"This book is going to fundamentally change some of the most important conversations in your life-the ones you have with yourself." (Adam Grant, best-selling author of Give and Take)
I would like to thank Ethan Kross for this amazingly articulated book.
Definitely one of the Best if not the Best
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Will order a print version for sure
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We spend a third to a half of our life not living in the moment.
When we face a threat, like a lion, adrenaline enters our bloodstream. Then cortisol, the stress hormone. These cause the body to redirect resources towards facing the immediate threat, away from maintenance. Continuous stress has a long-term cost on the body, such as cardiovascular diseases and early death. In the modern world, threats are typically not lions but job loss, financial loss, relationship or family problems, etc, but the body reacts the same way. Some of us have been in situations where we’ve been threatened repeatedly. As a founder, my product did not take off. I’ve lost most of my savings. Employees I invested a lot in didn’t reciprocate. An employee take advantage of me. And some companies I tried to work with tried to take advantage of me. An investor or two I approached refused to fund my startup. When we’ve been threatened repeatedly like this, we become trained to see situations as threats, even when they’re not. When we go for a walk and see a cat, we imagine a lion. This imagined threat causes the same physical problems as real threats — cardiovascular diseases, early death, etc. So, when you have a stress response to an imagined threat, remind yourself you’re not under threat.
Sometimes introspecting makes things worse, not better. It causes the negative emotion to have a life of its own. To fix this, seek not to re-live the experience, but to evaluate it objectively, as if you’re a third person. This eases the emotion and brings more understanding. This is called distancing.
When you’re in an argument, whether with a romantic partner or at work, seek to distance. That way, you get to solve the problem instead of getting carried away in the argument. Talking to yourself in the third person, like “Why are you getting worked up about this, Kartick?” can help distance. Or using a pronoun like “he” for yourself, as in, “He now needs to decide whether…” Or give yourself a name of a fictional character, and ask “How would Picard handle this?”
You also distance temporally: ask yourself how you’ll feel about this a decade from now.
Staying at home all the time, and social distancing, increases the chatter in your mind.
Spend 20 min writing about your worst experiences: it makes you feel better, be healthier, and visit the doctor less.
When a traumatic event like 9/11 or a shooting at a college happens, people who shared their emotions with others, be it online or offline, felt worse and had worse physical health. People who shared their emotions a lot ended up worse than people who shared a little. When we share our pain, there are two aspects: an emotional aspect (we want people to commiserate with us) and a logical one (we want specific steps to overcome the pain). The former makes you feel worse, and the latter, better. But people, both support seekers and support givers, focus on the former. Don’t.
An affectionate touch from a loved one reduces chatter.
Exposure to greenery reduces chatter, increases health, and slows aging. Even photos, videos or sounds of greenery work.
Placebos have been proven to work, showing that the mind matters, even reducing the intensity of physical problems.
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