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Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about Raising Children

What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about Raising Children

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Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us about Raising Children

Written by: Michaeleen Doucleff
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In this ground-breaking book, Dr. Michaeleen Doucleff looks back to our ancestors for solutions to our failing modern-day parenting theories.

When Dr Michaeleen Doucleff became a mother, she examined the studies behind modern parenting guidance and found that the evidence was frustratingly limited, and the conclusions often ineffective. She began to wonder if an opposite approach was needed – one founded on traditional wisdom, like the knowledge and experience passed down over hundreds, even thousands, of years within ancient cultures.

With her young daughter in tow, she travelled across the world to observe and practice parenting strategies alongside families in three of the world's most venerable communities: Maya families in Mexico, Inuit families above the Arctic Circle, and Hadza families in Tanzania.

Dr Doucleff soon learned that these cultures don't have the same problems with children that Western parents do. Most strikingly, parents build a relationship with young children that is vastly different from the one many Western parents develop, built on co-operation instead of control; trust instead of fear; and personalised needs instead of standardised development milestones.

In Hunt, Gather, Parent, Doucleff introduces us to families where parents help little ones learn to control their emotions and reduce tantrums by the parents themselves controlling their own frustrations; foster self-sufficiency by safely giving kids the autonomy to manage risks and explore their limits; and motivate children to help with chores without using bribes or threats. Doucleff also talks to psychologists, neuroscientists, anthropologists, and sociologists and explains how the tools and tips can impact children's mental health and development.

Packed with practical takeaways, Hunt, Gather, Parent helps us rethink the ways we relate to our children, and reveals a universal parenting paradigm adapted for modern families.

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Critic Reviews

My jaw was practically dropping at every page turn. I just couldn’t believe what I was reading! I was desperate to try it out on my own kids: Ali Maffucci, NYT bestselling author of Inspiralized and Inspiralize Everything

Parents will find Doucleff’s curiosity contagious and guidance encouraging: Publishers Weekly

This book was a breath of fresh air- it clearly identified the parts I was struggling with… and then showed ways to help build a system that could work for me: Readable Moments

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Micheleen Doucleff did something rare in the parenting-industrial complex: she left the flowcharts at home and packed a passport. While most parenting books arrive armed with bullet points, neuroscience buzzwords, and a faint smell of Palo Alto, this one time-travels. History walks in, anthropology pulls up a chair, and suddenly parenting isn’t a TED Talk, it’s a campfire story.

The prologue, however, is a slog. She sounds like a B-grade magazine salesman insisting this subscription will “change your life.” Hang on. Because chapter one drops a stone tablet on your foot: parenting as shaped by thousands of years of evolution, warped by industrialization, and finally trapped inside the bizarre zoo we call the nuclear family. It stings. In a good way.

Compared to the endlessly repackaged wisdom mills, looking at you, Dan Siegel with a new title but the same smoothie, this book feels like cold water on the face. It also gently smirks at Parenting Without Borders for claiming “no borders” while never really crossing Western ones, and nods politely at Danish parenting while reminding us: one culture ≠ universal truth. Even Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother feels like a controversial cousin everyone still side-eyes.

The travelogue, parenting hybrid works best in Yucatán and the Arctic. Mayan kids helping without being bribed, Inuit kids mastering emotional restraint, it’s compelling and well reported. The Hadzabe chapter, though, feels thinner, maybe lost in translation, maybe crushed by reality. And yes, for readers from the so-called third world, some revelations land less like fireworks and more like “wait… you didn’t know this?”

She’s widely read, Braiding Sweetgrass, The Müller-Lyer illusion and it shows. Still, the book oversells its miracle a bit. The “this worked for me so it’ll work for you” drumbeat gets loud. Romanticism sneaks in, inevitably, wearing hiking boots.

The biggest flaw: solutions versus reality. Alloparents sound great until Monday morning arrives. Jobs, rent, school runs, grandparents in old-age homes, neighbors glued to LinkedIn, good luck assembling the village.

Also, it’s very mom-centric. Dads, please wait in the lobby.

Yet, credit where due, this is a brave book. It pokes holes in rigid Western thinking and gently taps non-Western readers on the shoulder: maybe stop treating those ideas like gospel.

Rating: 4.2 ancestral campfires out of 5
(.08 deducted for overselling and missed calendar invites to reality)

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