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The Ethical Slut

Written by: Janet W. Hardy,Dossie Easton
Narrated by: Janet W. Hardy,Dossie Easton
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Publisher's Summary

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle - from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

©1994 Celestial Arts (P)2012 Dossie Easton & Janet W. Hardy

Critic Reviews

"I couldn't stop reading it, and I for one identify as an ethical slut. This is a book for anyone interested in creating more pleasure in their lives...a complete guide to improving any style of relating, from going steady to having an extended family of sexual friends." (Betty Dodson, PhD, author of Sex for One)

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Found it common sensical

I didn't learn anything profound or new. though some might still want to go through it.

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Quite helpful, non-judgemental

A comprehensive manuscript on the polyamourous perspective and lifestyle. The author's comfortable and non-judgemental tone allows readers to ease into the process of re-evaluating their feelings.

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  • Troy
  • 28-07-15

The information and advice is 100% totally solid!

Where does The Ethical Slut rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

The open mindedness, sex positive approach, and enthusiasm was enjoyable.

What did you like best about this story?

Good solid read, with enough examples to use in everyday life.

What didn’t you like about Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ’s performance?

Having a younger, more modern adaption would have enhanced my experience. Their performance was good, my extreme reaction was more toward the grandma-like reading from Hardy and Easton - describing hardcore sex acts in detail to 20 and 30 something’s leaves a little bit to be desired.

If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

Hire a much younger staff and make it relevant to our modern time.

Any additional comments?

I don’t want anyone to misinterpret this review, this book is great! – all the information herein is solid, well delivered, and 100% on point. I have been in a relationship for 8 years where my wife and I love to take women home for 3 way sex, bondage and discipline, top/bottom sex – or whatever you want to call it. This book is specifically geared to relationships like these. Some of the ladies we hook up with end up staying around for a while because it just works - some don’t. This book is very good at looking at the dynamic of relationships like these and also very good at offering advice for this type of situation.My critique lies in the delivery, and approach. No offense to the authors who also speak the audio commentary (read the book to you), but the experience is like having my hippy grandmother tell me very detailed stories about how her and all her old friends used to get it on back in the day. A lot of the material doesn’t translate well to someone who is, say in their 20’s or 30’s; it just doesn’t – I feel our generation is way more open than those of the past. So even though, all the information in the book is absolutely great advise for a kinky relationship or a vanilla relationship. They push good, open values that stress on the importance of communication, it's just weird having it told to you by an older person. So I would suggest this book to everybody – just be ready to have it read to you by a nice old woman who loves to use terms like cunt, cock, & ass fucking.

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  • CrashingGirl
  • 01-03-18

Great for all but really great for beginners.

This was the sixth book I’ve read on this subject as I attempt to move from monogamy to a open relationship. The idea was completely scary and foreign to me however this is one of my favorite books that really gave me some relevant information and tips on how to manage through this transition. I feel I’m well on my way to understanding where I sit in on different relationship styles. I highly recommend this book for anyone considering or currently in this lifestyle. I may return to monogamy eventually however I feel this book helps me get a good understanding of my other options leaving me feeling non-judge and free to make a choice regardless of what that is. The authors are very kind and gentle however direct in the information provided

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  • Quinton Mccorquodale
  • 24-01-18

A Practical Guide that is wholly impractical.

What disappointed you about The Ethical Slut?

It lacked depth, citing itself to be a practical guide to polyamory for everyone. Telling the reader to write a journal in felt marker, buy sexy feeling underwear and recite mantras of self-worth felt less like a guide based of facts and more of a subjective set of recommendations from a couple. It glosses over some major pitfalls that I have personally seen in polyamorous relationships with recommendations that consist almost solely of "talk it out". It takes a scenario for a specific type of couple, in a specific dynamic and applies it elsewhere.

What was most disappointing about Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ’s story?

It defined sex as a ubiquitous thing (equitable with being turned on) towards the start of the book. Later, it narrowed good sex to being a spiritual oneness with another akin to a state of nirvana. Those of us not looking to achieve transcendence when being fellated by an acquaintance don't need to be told to strive for enlightenment. Sex can be a powerful bonding experience between intimates. It can be a meaningless release between strangers. Neither is invalid.

What didn’t you like about Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ’s performance?

It felt juvenile. Maybe it's the writing style, but there was this tittering tone to it that lost its appeal well within the first chapters. Maybe I'm being unreasonable, but I like my practical guides to be practical. You know, no-nonsense. I don't need an eighteen minute story about a woman finding love amidst a fisting at an orgy.

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Wrath.

Any additional comments?

If the concept is completely foreign to you, if the book is free, then go for it. Cannibalize the useful information from the chapters that apply to you and discard the rest. I assure you when I say you'll have missed nothing.

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  • Angie Holubowich
  • 19-04-16

Like a "Choose your own Adventure" book about sex.

Would you try another book from Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton and/or Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ?

No, I do not think their viewpoints and spectrum of knowledge are helpful to me.

Would you ever listen to anything by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton again?

No

Which scene was your favorite?

The chapter on sex parties and group sex were the most useful.

Was The Ethical Slut worth the listening time?

At a mere 10 hours, you would think it would have been easier to handle. But I found this book to be a trudge through monotone voices and delusional sexual utopia.

Any additional comments?

I really looked forward to this book. All the reviews and feedback from friends and colleagues, I expected a revelation and what I got instead was a book that was constantly telling me to refer to another chapter for more information. (A little hard to do when you are listening to an audio book.)

The authors speak a lot about their own personal lives and their existence within a sexual utopia where there is no jealousy and everything seems to fit like a glove. It is a hard lesson to simply tell someone, "You're feeling jealous? Well don't."

If it was that easy I would simply choose not to feel that and save myself the credit for "The Two Towers" by Tolkien. At least that will not be constantly sending me back on an adventure on page 69 to find out more.

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  • Priscilla
  • 14-05-18

Not for me.

Way to much hippie free love and it comes off condescending. There was little in the way of practical advice and although it mentions "many types of polyamory" this book seems to solely focus on those who want to live in what they call constellations - many long term relationships. There is no Male perspective at all. Overall I found this book not useful and feels really outdated.

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  • Sarah Clarner
  • 06-04-20

I loved this book!

I was raised to be a monogamous minister's daughter and really appreciate the open minded and broad horizons they laid out in this book. Normalizing the freedom to love and have healthy relationships outside of the past limits was a much needed thing for me. The speaker was calm and gentle. It made it a very easy listen for me. I have already referred many people to this book.

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  • LD
  • 10-07-18

Conceited and reads like a cult manual

Read "Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory and Optimistic Open Relationships" instead.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 19-10-16

fairly decent

the information was fairly decent, the reader a little bit boring for my taste. Listening to this book was almost like listening to some Christian book, except with a complete opposite point of view. Where Christianity tells you any kind of sex before marriage is a terrible idea, this book makes it sound like any kind of rules in regards to monogamy, or heterosexuality are the worst ever. In my opinion either extreme is narrow-minded and above all, untrue.

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  • Chris
  • 16-07-13

Well written, dense book

"The Ethical Slut" is an excellent, well written book to learn about different relationship types outside of monogamy while also respecting monogamy.

If you are looking at this book, you are probably curious about the many topics of relationships. You will find a lot of good tips in this book whether monogamous or considering open, polyamory, or more. This book can actually help enforce a lot of positive communication techniques for yourself and your partner(s). At its center, the book is all about honesty and trust which is the building blocks of every relationship.

The book is also extends the idea of what sex really is. If you think you know, listen to the first half of this book and see if you still define it the same way.

The authors read the book and they do an earnest job. The fact that they switch between the authors to accent parts is nice. Also it helps that they both practice what they are explaining so can provide personal experiences, emotions, and really relate the content.

The book gets a few down sides that keeps it from a 5 star.

The book feels it is geared largely to women and couples even though they try to cover all sexualities and relationship types. Single men can get quite a lot but some examples or exercises are difficult to relate to.

Also the second half of the book drags a little and the dual voice use takes a little bit of a hit that kept it moving so well the first half.

Finally, it can almost be an overload of information. You might need a few listens to get the full use of the book.

Overall, for anyone who ever "what ifed" or want to consider a different type of relationship in an open and honest way, this well written and dense book is for you!

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  • jon
  • 20-08-13

A book about sexuality needs a sexy narrator

Is there anything you would change about this book?

The book was interesting, but a bit repetitive. I seemed to plow the same ground (no pun intended) over and over again.

What aspect of Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton ’s performance would you have changed?

Very few authors are gifted narrators. These authors are now elderly women, whose voices sound like they belong to old women in Florida or Arizona retirement communities talking about golf. If you are narrating a book about sex, a voice that matches the topic is necessary. I was kind of annoyed by a grandmotherly voice talking about swinging and multiple sex partners.

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  • Daniel
  • 08-01-14

A wonderful book - and perfect as an audiobook

What did you like most about The Ethical Slut?

Much of the writing is done as if you were being spoken to. So naturally, when narrated as an audiobook, you often are being spoken to directly. A wonderful book and the perfect subject of an audiobook.

What was one of the most memorable moments of The Ethical Slut?

Listening to the narrator describe how she fell in love with a woman who at first intimidated her.

Did you have an emotional reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

I very often laughed out loud in public. Quite embarrassing.

Any additional comments?

A great book. Even though it may be targetted at women, there is no reason a man cannot enjoy it and glean a great deal of wisdom from it.

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  • soozeekyoo
  • 01-04-18

Essential reading for all

Inspirational and thought provoking. Wish I'd read it sooner. Narration was also excellent. The true stories were particularly helpful and I believe I'll approach relationships, intimacy and sex differently (healthier!) as a result of this book. I'm going to buy the hard copy to to refer back to, to do the exercises and to share with partners. Thank you

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  • 19eightytwo
  • 19-04-18

What a book... thank you!!!!

Such a great book, it made me feel that I am not alone. I loved that it wasn't completely serious, it had many funny little moments which made me even giggle at times :) Learned so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you..

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  • Suzanne Cooke
  • 11-10-15

Great guide to not being a dick when multi dating

Beautiful! Real and practical guidance for loving love mindfully. How to have your cake and eat it without being a dick.

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  • XY
  • 11-07-18

Very good, though a bit patronizing at times

I very much enjoyed this book, lots of good hippies and feminist spirits, though I definitely prefer "more than two" in terms of Polyamory as it has -in my opinion- a better stance with regards to veto rights and hierarchical relationships (both of which are dealt with more critical in MTT). I also found TES slightly more rebellious, but perhaps that's perhaps because it is a newer book, faced with the challenge of introducing a new concept, whereas MTT most likely built upon that knowledge.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-02-18

amazing book definitely one of my favorites

this is an amazing book for all of those looking for in alternative relationship.
started on the bus yesterday evening and the super today at 5 pm took only one break of two hours today that is how amazing I found this book

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  • p f chester
  • 14-08-17

flower power

ive gone back to the 60s. i did not rate it. bit of a wadte of money. thats in my opinion.

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  • Annabella Twort
  • 20-12-18

Must Read! Brilliant!

A brilliant and insightful book into the world of polyamoury, a must read on the subject.

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  • Lisa
  • 23-04-18

Truly a practical guide

Hilarious and entertaining, even as I read it a second time. Great advice that I enjoy putting to practice in my relationships.

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  • K. Notley
  • 09-11-15

Fantastic Don't Let The Title Put You Off!

Read it cover to cover. Be you whatever gender and whatever status there is ultimately something here for all. Even those not seeking the title of the book. Wise words and ones to live by, be free and be happy read this book and keep an open mind before you do!

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  • Borchard
  • 26-07-20

An absolute must read, non-monogamous or no. <3..

whether single, taken, monogamous, poly or anything else this book is an absolute brilliant read/listen with many awakening insights.

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  • Catherine
  • 05-06-17

Great for any relationship

Loved it, completely amazing information on dealing with jealousy and opening up communications that can be used in any and all circumstances.

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  • Amanda
  • 17-10-17

inspirational and enlightening, thankyou

I have waited so long to find these beautiful women and their knowledge. I embrace their values as my own

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  • Anonymous User
  • 11-01-23

Everything I needed to know and more to begin my journey.

This book was well read, well put together and beautifully informative. I definitely recommend for anyone looking into, starting, and well into this Poly lifestyle.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 30-12-22

Great in chapters,

hard in parts. listening to one partner push their my way or the highway way if life why another begs them not too. liberating for people that choose this life single, great for communication about sex, safety and talking. Dismissive of other peoples needs, but I guess that falls to the choice style.

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  • Charlie Shaw-Feather
  • 21-11-22

Great book for relationship anarchy!

Narrated well and with excellent knowledge. A must listen for anyone questioning relationship norms or wanting more connection and fulfilling relationships!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 13-09-22

Insightful, interesting and practical

A very interesting and insightful book, written by two intelligent and articulate women, with loads of knowledge and experience between them. it is a rare treat that the book is read aloud by the authors, lending the words a delightful authenticity. Well paced and full of very useful, practical advice. Highly recommend!

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  • Nathan
  • 18-04-22

Mostly common sense, but still interesting

There is a lot of common sense in this book, though maybe not always things that people put into common practice. So while it's hard to pinpoint anything absolutely groundbreaking - I still found it interesting to ponder some of the 'lessons' as they applied in my own life, without immediately brushing them off as 'obvious'.

I found the first half of the book much more useful (to me personally) than the second half. For me, this is where the real thought-provoking meat was around biases, judgements, and the ethical side of polyamory in general. It was a fascinating deconstruction of sex in general, and the way society generally teaches us to approach sex as a limited resource. It gave me an opportunity to really challenge some of my own pre-thinking about the topic.

The second half was a deeper exploration of the practical side of polyamorous relationships - and essentially was 10 chapters worth of "Communicate more". Admittedly these chapters were probably full of more useful tips and insights for those exploring creative sexual relationships more directly.

All up, an interesting read - even as just an interested outsider.

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  • Fiona
  • 09-01-22

Thought provoking

This book challenged my thinking and feelings which I loved. Good advice for any relationship styles on communication. I have plenty to think about and become aware of my biases.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 15-12-21

Meaningful Advice for alternative relationships.

This book will be re read and I would not hesitate to recommend to anyone looking for real advice on relationships of any kind.