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  • Unconditional Parenting

  • Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
  • Written by: Alfie Kohn
  • Narrated by: Alfie Kohn
  • Length: 8 hrs and 41 mins
  • 4.6 out of 5 stars (47 ratings)

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Unconditional Parenting

Written by: Alfie Kohn
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One basic need all children have, educator Alfie Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful and largely unknown research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.

More than just another book about discipline, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people.

©2005 Alfie Kohn (P)2016 Tantor

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By Poorva

I, mother of 2 daughters and facilitator at alternative learning Centre, was tremendously benefited by the book. Especially, the impact of time outs and emotional withdrawals I had never imagined. A must read book for all parents.

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A must read!

Amazing! one of the best parenting books I've ever come across! A great eye opener for the subtle ways conditional parenting creeps into our lives (for those who were brought up with conditional parenting). I've been waiting to read this for some time now. A must read for every parent. This is the first audible I have heard and I loved the experience!

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Simply Awesome

Changed my perspective and helped strengthen my bond with my daughter. simply awesome 👌

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Not worth

it's more about conditional parenting. not giving solutions on the spot while discussing problem there

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lot of valuable insights

this is not just for parents but also for everyone who wants to build better relationship with their spouse, friends and acquaintances.

my take aways:
carrots and stick is not the best approach all the time.
treat kids with respect, ask why they are doing what they are doing, ask them for a solution, think from their perspective, teach them to look from other perspectives.
be ready to acknowledge our shortcomings, think who to solve the root cause instead of managing the symptoms.
expressing anger and controlling kids will give only an instant relief. for long term optimal outcomes follow above tips

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Unconditional thoughts

The book threw out some of the misconceptions I had. But I find the alternatives very difficult to follow. Narration by author himself is ok with speed 1.10x. Sometimes it's sleepy. anyway, read it under your own risk because it knocks out some age old concepts.

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Must read for all parents

This book changed my perspective of parenting its a tough job and a job of patience and rather understanding your child’s perspective. I have started following the advice in this book and its bringing me closer to my daughter.

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