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Unf*ck Your Intimacy

Written by: Faith G. Harper PhD LPC-S ACS ACN
Narrated by: Erin Bennett
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Publisher's Summary

Are you in a relationship? Used to be? Want to be? Just want to have better sex or date better? This book is your antidote to typical sex, dating, and relationship rules. Dr. Faith, best-selling author of Unf*ck Your Brain, cuts through the crap with sharp guidelines on how to be a human being in an adult, loving, intimate relationship, with yourself and other people. If you're looking to heal from past wounds, make better choices, or improve an existing relationship, this book is for you!

©2019 Faith G. Harper (P)2019 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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  • Allie Raines
  • 18-09-20

Redundant and unnecessary

The entire book could be rewritten in the singular sentence, “It’s fucking ok to be yourself.”

But if you need to hear that in 5 hours worth of different ways, go for it.

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  • Jayda
  • 22-10-20

One word: ANNOYING

I’m 20 years old and still can not stand the language. The swearing is over done and annoying. She is trying way too hard at being ‘relatable’ and ‘quirky’.
I only got through the first chapter🤷🏻‍♀️
To put it plainly If you like her other books, I’m sure you’ll like this one. If you don’t like her other books, you’ll “sure as f*ck” hate this one. Unfortunate. I had high hopes.

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  • Thomas
  • 25-09-19

meh

Not everyone gets to be chocolate cake, and most long-term relationships won't be between two cakes. The author's insistence that we search tirelessly for our cake-mate-- despite recognizing the pitfalls of oxytocin lies-- seems very 'hollywood romance' to me. That is: both naive and potentially frustrating. Unrealistic expectations can knock you out of the genepool as effectively as genital mutilation. Many of the exercises given in the book require (or greatly benefit from) having a partner. So single folk will find this book of limited use.

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  • Damian Burne
  • 22-01-21

Meaningless swearing does not work

There are some good concepts, and initially the book had potential, but the unnecessary swearing made everything distasteful to the extent the point does not carry across well.

Intimacy, sensuality, eroticism, sexuality, they're all nuances of concepts that require a compassionate and tender approach to grasp. The moment you say "f-ck society, I want an orgasm" you're redirecting the energy to the same intellectual fallacy of a source that created this division. Giving and receiving pleasure (to oneself or others) is a form of cherishing life, and not an empowered action against a primitive majority of the society who hasn't had the time, or the awareness, to analyse things properly. Forgiveness and gratitude will allow you to experience more pleasure than cursing whilst trying to convey your points across.

I found this book pointless besides the boundaries topic, but the information can be easily found in other books or articles.

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  • Joey Gonzalez
  • 06-02-20

Very informative and an easy listen

I enjoyed the content and the teaching/story telling format. Great insight and gave me a lot to think about and work on.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 19-01-20

Loved Faith’s Candor and Honesty

I’ve recommended this Audible to both family and friends. Faith is on point and tells it like it is!

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  • carrie
  • 06-04-21

So much great information!

should be obvious but language warning....lots of F-bombs and unfiltered language. If you’re ready to get an amazing dose of real talk related to all things intimacy then this is a must read.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-02-21

Informative & Empowering

If you can adjust to the cussing, (which was a non-issue for me) you'll be able to really hear the solid, evidence-based story Dr. Harper tells and grow from it. She does a fantastic job of not only providing information into the underlying issues in intimacy, but also in gifting practical exercises to use to heal. From my own understanding, the research is not conclusive about porn addiction, so the one issue I had was her stance that porn addiction absolutely does not exist. Outside of this, I found it to be brilliant.

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  • Mikael Bakkeli
  • 05-05-21

Very general

Overall I felt the book was very general. The book did mention a few specific things like going in to different stories, but for the most part it was like "Many people says..." - what kind of people are we referring to?
"A recently study..." - what study?

In several occasions were she is about to come up with a strong argument, she takes a step back like ", but that's on you to decide"

However in the end she did mention if there is one thing in the book you found useful she has accomplished her goal, but waiting 6+ hours for that one or few things wasn't worth it. I guess "some" people will find this book useful.

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  • Jahaziel Magana
  • 24-12-20

good way to get a new perspective

it offers an excellent perspective on relationships, what might be complicating them and how to overcome the obstacles

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  • Anonymous User
  • 25-10-22

Cheap style

Book written in forced casual tone and full of unfunny jokes. That deeply obscures the actual content of the book

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  • Anonymous User
  • 16-08-22

quite informative

Made me think of sex conversations to have with a partner to understand if our preferencescan match or be accomodated for. Overall quite an informative summary of options.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-08-22

Love it! Lot's to think about!

So much processing. Thank you so much.

Really enjoyed the wording. Really easy to connect to and understand.

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  • STEVE HAYWARD
  • 29-05-22

Wouldnt recommend

Very basic and disjointed narration with more questions than answers and a lot of repitition. Cited facts and percentages simply dont add up and author in my opinion confuses facts with personal views and opinions. Stuck it out to the end but sadly learnt nothing new. Disappointing given the credentials of the author.

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  • hullbiker
  • 01-03-22

Excellent and informative

Loved the down to earth, straight talking style and the narration is first class. Easy to follow and stay interested.

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  • chris hammond
  • 22-02-22

Entertaining and insightful. Thought provoking

With a very special person being a world away and our relationship in tatters (despite a fundamental bond between us formed over the years), this book has helped my to look inwardly and then externally at ways of resolving our issues. It has helped addresses some of our blockages and might just provide the solutions necessary to reconnect and rectify our relationship and put it on a better trajectory for the future. 💔💔 🤞❤️❤️

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  • boe
  • 09-01-22

Gives you something to think about

For me this was a very curious read x I think it was helpful and logical in many respects but also funny and honest x

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  • Sadie Anne Ryan
  • 08-12-21

Fantastic

Brilliant book filled with lots of insights. It has given me a much more open mind and has opened my world up to new things

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  • Charlotte-Anne w.
  • 29-10-21

Good listen

very good, funny and interesting. The only reason I gave 4 stars instead of 5 is because I listen to lots of self help books and though this was really good it didn't feel like you could take the advice seriously, but good entertainment value

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-08-21

Interesting listen

This was an interesting listen with lots of food for thought. Questions asked were thought provoking and helped with some realisations. I was less interested at the end of the book but it is still worth a listen. Information on boundary setting and the theme of communication throughout really resonated with me.

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  • Aurora
  • 12-05-21

Wouldn't listen again

Was really monotone and boring, couldn't keep attention to what she was saying. So umm that's it I think.

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  • angie
  • 07-10-22

Fabulous and important book!

Absolutely amazing book, full of non-judgemental and wise advice.
Love the research, message and language.
Hate the narrator. Not a good fit, felt very incongruous with the authors writing voice. Faith, please narrate this yourself!!

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 18-06-22

pretty good

pretty good introduction to alot of things, could be a book that some struggling couples benefit from, however if you already read these kinds of books there isn't exactly any new ground breaking revelations

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  • Anonymous User
  • 03-01-22

interesting

skipped a few chapters that felt irrelevant to me. mostly enjoyed it and got a lot out of it.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-12-21

Fresh perspective.

The author swears a lot (in case you didn't get that from the title)

if I had to summarise, this book is about permission.
permission to be yourself
permission to explore what it means to be yourself
the need for permission when it involves others.

This is not a deep dive into any one topic it's just a straight shooting guide on how to start dealing with your struggles regardless of your gender, orientation or relationship status.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 12-11-21

A book I didn’t know I needed.

I went into this book with no desire to fix or address a problem, there was just a level of curiosity there. Since reading, this book has helped in many ways regarding my relationship discussing effective communication, differing relationship styles and changes the human body goes through. Definitely Recommend!