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Vow

A Memoir of Marriage (And Other Affairs)
Written by: Wendy Plump
Narrated by: Coleen Marlo
Length: 8 hrs and 20 mins

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There are so many ways to find out. From a cell phone. From a bank statement. From some weird supermarket encounter. One morning in early January 2005, Wendy Plump's friend came to tell her that her husband was having an affair. It was not a shock. Actually, it explained a lot. But what Wendy was not prepared for was the revelation that her husband also had another child, living within a mile of their family home.

Monogamy is one of the most important of the many vows we make in our marriages. Yet it is a rare spouse who does not face some level of temptation in their married life. The discovery of her husband's affair followed betrayals of Wendy's own, earlier in the marriage. The revelations of those infidelities had tested their relationship, but for Wendy, it was commitment - the sticking with it - that mattered most, and when her sons were born, she knew family had to come first. But with another woman and another family in the picture, she lost all sense of certainty.

In Vow, Wendy Plump boldly walks one relationship's fault lines, exploring infidelity from the perspective of both betrayer and betrayed. Moving fluidly from the intimate to the near-universal, she considers the patterns of adultery, the ebb and flow of passion, the undeniable allure of the illicit, the lovers and the lies. Frank, intelligent and important, Vow will forever alter your understanding of fidelity, and the meaning of the promises we make to those we love.

©2013 Wendy Plump (P)2013 Audible, Inc.

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  • JTE
  • 07-02-15

Brutally honest...

Would you listen to Vow again? Why?

Probably not only because I already know the story. Do people normally listen to audiobooks multiple times?

What did you like best about this story?

Honest and unapologetic.

Any additional comments?

This story is well worth the read (or in the case of the audiobook, the listen).

Vow is a very brave and honest account of a relationship that was doomed from the beginning. While many reviewers might be tempted to review the author as a person and not the book, I don't think that is fair. After all, it's no secret what this book is about. If you chose to read a book about adultery, and live vicariously through the actors in it, you can't judge them as people when reflecting on the story.

The book is very well written and effectively captures and describes the mentality of a woman who seems to have no respect for the vow of marriage until it is irreparably broken. At times, Wendy does channel her inner Frasier and use bigger words and metaphors than the scene calls for, but it's not obnoxious.

I didn't feel much (if any) sympathy for Wendy or Bill, but I don't think she tries to seek it. What I did feel was empathy. I can relate to the situation where a couple tries to continue their marriage after an affair without ever addressing the underlying issues that led to the affair in the first place. I understand what it feels like to always wonder if the other person is going to "get back" at you someday. I understand how being in a marriage where things just aren't right leads to needing to escape, and the comfort you can find in someone else.

But most of all, I can understand what it's like to want to stay together, even when there is no good reason to do so, simply because we're afraid of accepting the consequences of our actions. It's about deferring pain, and it accrues interest. We'll always feel vulnerable until we pay full price for those actions.

I hope that writing this book was a weight off of Wendy's shoulders. Once the story was documented and the last page written, I hope that she was able to move on from the past and carry the lessons toward a better future for her and her children.

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  • Vincent Gan
  • 29-12-19

So painful

The best thing I can say is that I am just another Bill. The infidelity of the woman I married utterly destroyed me. I’ve only caught her with one. But there were other two which she claimed she did not have sex with. Does it matter? I never believed her. Its been two years post dday. I’m still here and stuck. No escape and no future. While the author makes it sounds so human, I can only say she is really evil. Too bad I don’t have Bill’s money and balls to get a new woman. Though I crave for someone new so much.

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  • jane joensen
  • 24-10-14

A tedious affair

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

It's hard to say but the book was just not what I expected. I had a hard time with that particular american accent too.

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

I found that the book did not really have head or tail. It was tales of different affairs - on both parts. I would have liked the book to have more of a 'red thread' - to be more like a novel.

Would you listen to another book narrated by Coleen Marlo?

No - I would not. I did not like C.M's voice or accent.

If you could play editor, what scene or scenes would you have cut from Vow?

Most of them. I would have told the story in a whole different way. It became kind of boring.