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205. The Weight You Carry That Isn’t Physical

205. The Weight You Carry That Isn’t Physical

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 There’s a kind of heaviness that has nothing to do with muscle, fatigue, or your workload. It’s the weight of unmade decisions; the weight of inconsistency. That burden you carry when you know you’re capable of more, yet you don’t follow through.If you’ve been feeling heavy (not tired, not overworked, but as if you’re carrying something you can’t quite name) this episode will explain exactly why.More importantly, it will show you how to put that weight down.Hey there. It’s me, Kore. And you’re listening to Exercising Self-Control: From Fitness To Flourishing.The Heaviness of MisalignmentThis weight accumulates silently. It builds when your actions don’t match your standards, when your behaviour contradicts your Preferred Identity, when your choices remain thoughts you never translate into action. You don’t notice it at first. Then one day, something just feels off.This is the heaviness of misalignment. And it’s one of the most exhausting states you can live in.The Weight of Unmade DecisionsOne of the heaviest burdens you can carry is a choice you refuse to enact.Every time you delay a decision, you don’t avoid the cost. You just pay it differently. You pay it in mental clutter, emotional friction, and undefined stress. You experience low-grade anxiety and a constant loop of revisiting circumstances, consequences, and possibilities. You’re trying to imagine your way to a place that only action can take you.Unmade decisions drain you because they keep you in a state of internal tension. You don’t commit, yet you’re not free of the decision either. You’re stuck in the middle, and that’s a difficult place to be.The moment you decide, even if the choice is difficult, the weight is lifted. It’s released.Photo by Lena Fedorov on UnsplashThe Exhaustion of InconsistencyInconsistency is one of the most draining patterns a person can live within. Not because it requires effort, but because it destroys self-trust.When you don’t trust yourself, everything becomes harder. It’s harder to start. It’s harder to follow through. It becomes harder to plan. Even resting is more difficult because you mentally don’t allow yourself to rest. You keep cycling through scenarios, circumstances, and consequences, never settling into peace.Why does this happen? Because inconsistency creates doubt. And doubt is another heavy burden to carry.When you are consistent, you move through life with momentum. You know who you are, you know what to do, and obstacles don’t derail you. When you’re inconsistent, you feel the friction of every movement.The Burden of AvoidanceAvoidance creates a different kind of weight. When you avoid something, there’s short-term relief that creates long-term strain.Every task you intend to do but avoid doesn’t disappear. It grows in your mind. It takes your attention even when you’re not actively thinking about it. It’s that background processing, the mental noise that surfaces occasionally with “What about that thing you keep avoiding?”Tasks you avoid grow into stories you tell yourself about who you are because you’re not dealing with them. You probably know this feeling.* It’s the message you haven’t replied to because it feels awkward.* It’s the habit you keep starting and stopping.* It’s the conversation you’re delaying.* The promise you made yourself but never honoured.These things weigh on you because they represent an unfinished and incomplete identity.What makes avoidance heavy is not the task itself. It’s the person you become in the process of avoiding it.The Crushing Weight of Self-BetrayalThere’s no heavier burden than the one you carry when you know you’re not living up to your own standards.You can hide this from other people. You can rationalize it. You can distract yourself from your own behaviour. But you can’t escape it.Every time you break your own word, you add another plate to that bar of weight that you carry. Eventually, you feel crushed by that weight and you don’t even know why.This is why discipline matters. Why living with virtuous self-control, no matter how daunting that might seem, is a lighter burden than letting yourself down.Self-betrayal is a heavy, heavy weight.The Weight of Untapped PotentialThen there’s the weight of untapped potential. A unique heaviness that comes from knowing you’re capable of more.It’s not guilt, shame, or regret. It’s not a standard you’re breaking. It’s the idea that you could be more, that you could be doing more, that you could be expressing yourself better. It’s unused strength, dormant potential. It’s looking at who you could be if you got your act together.And this doesn’t go away until you act on it. The potential you see for yourself becomes lighter when you allow yourself to be pulled in that direction and take action.How to Put the Weight DownSo, how do you release this burden?You don’t need to completely transform your life. You don’t ...
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