Why do we long for closeness and feel fear when it becomes real?

Why can two people love each other deeply, and still not be able to carry the same life?

In this episode of 34o, Henrik reflects on love as a timeless human experience, from ancient texts and literature to modern relationships and heartbreak. About longing, jealousy, vulnerability, and the courage it takes to stay present when love asks more of us than we feel ready to give.

This is not an episode about blame or answers.

It’s about awareness.

About learning to pause instead of react.

About seeing both our light and our shadow and choosing how we love.

If you’ve ever loved deeply, lost something that mattered, or wondered why intimacy can hurt as much as it heals, this episode is for you.

Vera learned early how to read a room.

How to sense shifts.

How to stay alert, often more attuned to others than to herself.

In this episode, we explore the quiet presence of shame, the kind that doesn’t shout, but gently pulls the body away from desire, closeness, and rest. Shame around wanting. Around being seen. Around taking up space in intimacy.

Vera shares what it’s like to move between longing and withdrawal, presence and disappearance. To want connection and still feel the impulse to step back when things begin to deepen.

Mor joins the conversation, offering reflections and commentary that add another layer, naming patterns, softening judgments and holding space for what shame often silences.

This episode is about:

– how shame lives in the body

– how safety changes desire

– how intimacy isn’t created through performance, but through permission and how staying can sometimes be the bravest act of all

A conversation without urgency.

Without fixing.

Just honest presence, listening, and truth.

In the final part of Dance of Polarity, Henrik and Jonas explore healing - how we can release old conditioning around power, shame, and gender to rediscover desire as a bridge back to wholeness.

They talk about what it means to lead and to yield, to feel and to trust, and how masculine and feminine energy can co-create instead of compete.

To get in contact with Jonas and learn more about his work, please connect with him here: www.syntesa.se

A closing reflection on love, polarity, and becoming fully alive.