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49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP

49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP

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 Episode 49 - Divorce and Home Ownership: Expert Tips with Karla Kyte, CDLP Episode snapshot Keeping the house after divorce can feel like the “obvious” choice—until lending rules, buyouts, support income, and loan terms collide. In this episode, Melissa sits down with Karla Kyte (Certified Divorce Lending Professional) to unpack the real-world mortgage hurdles that derail well-intentioned settlement agreements, especially in a higher-rate environment. Karla explains the critical differences between refinance vs. assumption vs. release of liability, how support and employment income are treated for qualifying, and why asking the right questions (to the right department) can save clients from losing options that disappear once the judgment is signed. Today’s affirmation “We are only subject to a negative thought or belief if we consciously say that it applies to us.” — from the Letting Go Deck (and Letting Go book) by David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. About today’s guest: Karla Kyte, CDLP Karla Kyte of My Divorce Mortgage Planning is a divorce mortgage planning expert with nearly 30 years in lending. She supports divorcing homeowners (and the professionals guiding them) to ensure housing decisions made during divorce actually work when it’s time to qualify—before it’s too late to change course. Karla’s specialty includes the issues that most often trip people up: buyouts, refinances, assumptions, release of liability, support income, self-employment, and debt/income allocation. She’s based in Denver, Colorado, and works nationwide. What we cover Why “I can afford the payment” isn’t the same as “I can qualify to keep the house” The Tetris of divorce terms: legal language, tax concerns, and lending guidelines have to align Refinance basics (and why it often means losing the low rate) The difference between a cash-out refi and a buyout refinance (and why the distinction matters) Assumption vs. release of liability: what’s actually possible, and when Why calling the wrong department can get you a flat “no” that isn’t the full story Support income rules: what qualifies, how long it must be received, and why documentation + timing matter Why cash support payments can wreck mortgage qualification Return-to-work income: full-time vs. part-time and what lenders typically require Self-employment: why divorce “income for support” can look nothing like “income for lending” A creative (and risky) option: Garn-St. Germain protections and continuing to pay an existing mortgage post-divorce (when the other spouse stays on the loan) Key takeaways (save these if you’re navigating divorce + a house) Don’t assume your lender—or your lawyer—knows every option. Mortgage rules are technical, and divorce adds extra layers. If you’re exploring an assumption or release of liability, you must speak to the loan servicing department (not general customer service). For many loans, assumability is limited—but in divorce, some servicers may allow a release of liability even when the spouse wasn’t originally on the mortgage (often at servicer discretion). Support income may be usable for qualification only if it’s court-ordered, paid consistently, and properly documented (and it must generally be expected to continue long enough). Never pay support in cash if the recipient needs it to qualify—paper trail matters. Part-time income can be hard to use without the right history/guarantees; full-time income is usually easier to re-establish for lending. For self-employed borrowers, “income” in divorce calculations can be wildly different from what underwriters can count—plan early, because changing tax strategy often takes time. Notable moments / mic-drop reminders “Ask the right question to the right department—or you could lose a huge opportunity.” “A settlement term can be perfectly legal—and still not lendable.” “Paper trail is everything when support income is part of qualification.” Resources mentioned Letting Go (book) + Letting Go Deck — David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D. Karla’s website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com Mentioned concept: Garn-St. Germain (due-on-sale protections in specific transfer situations, including divorce) Connect with Karla Kyte Website: mydivorcemortgageplanning.com Find her by name: Karla Kyte on TikTok / Instagram Connect with Melissa / High Vibe Divorce Podcast + DMs: @highvibedivorce Mediation: @highvibemediation Website: highvibemediation.com Listener call-to-action If this episode helped you think differently about keeping (or selling) the house, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend who needs steady guidance right now. Divorce can be stressful and isolating—let’s keep the conversation going. Until next time: keep the vibes high and the conflict low. Friendly disclaimer This episode is educational and not legal, tax, or financial advice. Mortgage and ...
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