Today's focus is on ways to capitalize on and modify the home environment to support a loved one with memory loss. Kelly walks listeners through thoughtful home modifications that can act as an additional caregiver by reducing cognitive demands on people living with dementia. The results show respect for the person with dementia while reducing frustration for both caregivers and their loved ones. By designing around dementia-related brain changes, homes can help preserve independence and safety while reducing caregiver burden.

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RESOURCES:

Room-by-Room Guide for Caregivers

https://alzfdn.org/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/The-Apartment-Guide-web.pdf

10 Ways to Home Safety

https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/blog/10-ways-make-your-home-dementia-friendly

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For someone living with memory loss, life already feels less predictable. Control is slipping in quiet ways. And home may be the last place that still feels familiar. The last place where they feel like themselves. So when help enters the conversation, it can feel less like support and more like losing autonomy. That’s why pushing harder often backfires. In this episode, Kelly talks about introducing care gradually with familiarity, consistency, and choice. Because the wall doesn’t come down when it’s forced. It comes down when it’s no longer needed.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.caregiver.org/resource/introducing-home-care-when-your-loved-one-says-no/

https://www.agingcare.com/articles/helping-seniors-adjust-to-new-caregiver-155012.htm

https://arcadiahomecare.com/when-elderly-parent-refuses-in-home-care/

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Today, Kelly shares our most listened-to episode, "Is It Alzheimer's?". Aside from cancer, Alzheimer’s Disease is often regarded as one of the greatest fears for many individuals. In fact, when people begin to experience memory lapses, they often jump to the conclusion that it might be Alzheimer’s. However, the disease encompasses much more than just memory problems. In this episode, Kelly will replace fear with facts and offer steps you can take now to clear up any misconceptions.

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Resources:

Early Signs of Alzheimer's:

https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/10_signs

Stages of Alzheimer's:

https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/stages

Assessments for Alzheimer's:

https://www.alz.org/alzheimers-dementia/diagnosis/medical_tests

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Today’s episode explores one of the most tender, and often misunderstood, parts of dementia care: denial. Kelly will talk about why denial shows up, why it isn’t always stubbornness, and how fear, identity, and self-protection play a role. She'll also offer ways to start compassionate conversations, how to respond when others don’t see the problem, and what to do when denial becomes unsafe — without damaging trust or dignity. If you’ve ever heard the words, “I’m fine, nothing is wrong,” and felt stuck between worry and love… this episode is for you.

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RESOURCES:

https://www.everydayhealth.com/alzheimers-disease/how-talk-loved-about-signs-alzheimers-disease/

https://www.askelbi.com/post/when-your-parent-is-in-denial-about-dementia-how-to-navigate-this-difficult-conversation-with-compassion

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As this year comes to a close, I just want to take a moment to thank you for being here. Whether you’re listening while driving, folding laundry, sitting quietly after a long day, or taking a much-needed pause—you matter, and I’m really glad you found your way to this space.

The holidays can bring warmth and connection, but they can also bring grief, stress, complicated family dynamics, and reminders of how much has changed when memory loss is part of your life. If this season feels heavy for you, please know—you’re not doing it wrong. You’re responding to something hard with love, and that takes courage.

My hope is that, wherever you are right now, you can offer yourself a little grace. Connection doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful. Presence doesn’t have to look the way it used to. And love doesn’t disappear just because things are different.

Thank you for trusting me with your time, your stories, and your hearts this year. It’s truly a privilege to walk alongside you in this journey.

From my heart to yours, I’m wishing you moments of peace, comfort, and gentle connection this holiday season. And always—remember, no one should walk this journey alone.

-Kelly

The holidays bring joy, memories, and for long-distance caregivers, a mix of love and guilt. In this episode of A Balancing Act, Kelly offers loving, practical ways to stay connected with your loved one living with dementia, even from miles away. Learn how to make every call and visit more meaningful, how to support the caregiver at home, and how to find help for yourself when it’s time to hang up the phone, or travel back to your home. Because caregiving doesn’t stop when there is distance between you-it just changes shape.

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RESOURCES:

https://magazine.medlineplus.gov/article/helping-from-miles-away-strategies-for-long-distance-caregiving

https://www.caregiveraction.org/i-dont-live-my-family-im-caregiver/#:~:text=Several%20tools%20and%20resources%20can%20aid%20in,advice%20from%20other%20caregivers%20facing%20similar%20challenges.

https://www.alz.org/help-support/caregiving/care-options/long-distance-caregiving

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Thanksgiving is here, and while the holidays can be full of joy and tradition, they can also be challenging when someone you love is living with memory loss and dementia, In this episode, Kelly explores how to adjust expectations with compassion, how to support your loved one at their level of ability, and how to protect connection over perfection. Whether you’re hosting a big family meal or calling from a distance, these ideas can help bring more peace and less overwhelm to the day.

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Resources:

https://nhdementiatraining.org/2021/12/20/tips-for-spending-holidays-with-those-with-dementia/

https://alzheimer.ca/en/help-support/i-have-friend-or-family-member-who-lives-dementia/holidays-special-occasions

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In this episode, we talk about what happens when a loved one begins losing their sense of time — mixing up days, seasons, appointments, or believing events are happening “right now” when they aren’t. These time slips can be confusing and emotional for everyone involved. We’ll explore why the brain struggles to track time in dementia and share gentle ways to respond, reduce stress, and stay connected when time doesn’t feel steady anymore.

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RESOURCES:

https://cicoa.org/wp-content/uploads/2023/04/Memory-Aids_Dementia.pdf

https://www.homecare.co.uk/advice/time-perception-and-dementia

https://alzheimer.ca/en/help-support/im-caring-person-living-dementia/providing-day-day-care/setting-routines-reminders

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