Ever convinced yourself that the butterflies were chemistry — and not, turns out, just anxiety in a trench coat? Yeah. This podcast is for you.

After Thot is where dating, love, attachment, and heartbreak finally get the perspective they deserve. Host Holly Sloofman — founder of Necterine and longtime student of her own messy thot era — sits down each week with therapists, comedians, creators, and real humans who've done the work for honest, unfiltered conversations about the patterns we keep repeating, the healing we didn't know we needed, and what it actually looks like to choose better.

The situationship you thought was going to kill you? The relationship that had you grinding your jaw in your sleep? The ex whose name you literally cannot remember anymore?

Total afterthought.

This is not a podcast about finding the one. It's about understanding yourself well enough to stop going after the wrong ones.

New episodes every Wednesday.

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Cate Pileggi, joins Holly to explain why that irresistible spark might just be your nervous system recognizing a familiar wound. They get into attachment styles, trauma bonds, why your "type" is probably not a type at all, and what healthy attraction actually feels like. Uncomfortable? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely.

About Cate Cate Pileggi is a licensed marriage and family therapist in the greater Los Angeles area. She's trauma informed and EMDR trained and specializes in relationship struggles, painful childhoods, narcissistic abuse, religious trauma and insecure attachment. She works with individuals and couples who want to find a greater sense of peace, connection and joy.

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Lexie Lombard has been single for most of her 20s — by choice. Spencer Bland came to LA for a slutty era and accidentally fell in love by week three. Together with Holly, they get into divorced dating, cool girl performance, losing parents, and why your dog is actually your best wingman.

About Lexie - Lexie Lombard is one of YouTube's early leading creators and host of the Lexie podcast, who has spent the past 15 years growing a loyal audience online through sharing her life with honesty and curiosity.

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About Spencer - Spencer Bland is an LA-based comedian and writer whose debut album Dinner at Four debuted at number one on both Apple and Amazon Music.

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