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Aging ain't for Sissies

Aging ain't for Sissies

Written by: Marcy Backhus
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Aging isn't easy. My name is Marcy Backhus and I am your host! Make sure your complete well-being is handled with a community and information that can make it easier and FUN. Aging needs humor, which you can find in the "Aging ain't for Sissies" Podcast, along with informational guests that give us the information we need.

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  • Strength Without Performance, Peace Without Permission
    Jan 29 2026

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    A swollen hand, a missed Disneyland day, and a suitcase full of TJ Maxx finds might not sound like a manifesto—but this week turns into a vivid map of becoming. Between a family dust-up, a rare infection biopsy, and a hopeful green light for an upcoming cruise, we face the question that quietly shapes midlife and beyond: Who am I becoming, and who am I done trying to be?

    I walk through the messy middle of identity shifts, the kind that don’t announce themselves with fireworks. There’s the Target moment asking for help when my hand won’t cooperate, the decision to rest instead of push, and the relief of telling the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. We talk about releasing the roles that used to keep us safe—the peacekeeper who pays with her own peace, the tireless performer, the palatable version who overexplains—and how alignment feels like shoulders finally dropping. Along the way, you’ll hear what it’s like to navigate a rare infection (biopsy, stitches, waiting on cultures), the reality of locked-up essentials in big box stores, and the courage to speak up about the state of the country without turning this space into a shouting match.

    If you’ve felt a quiet resistance to who you used to be, this conversation gives language and permission. We explore choosing peace over approval, listening to intuition, honoring limits, and refusing to rush—a practical blueprint for aging with honesty and heart. The payoff isn’t perfect days; it’s the absence of self-betrayal. You stop forcing yourself into rooms that shrink you. You stop negotiating with your gut. You start trusting that showing up as you are is enough.

    Press play for a clear, compassionate take on growth, boundaries, recovery, and real strength. If the message resonates, share it with a friend who needs it, subscribe for more candid conversations, and leave a review to help others find the show.

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    25 mins
  • Why Rest Alone Won’t Cure Your Exhaustion
    Jan 23 2026

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    The kind of tired that lingers after a nap has nothing to do with willpower. We pull back the curtain on bone-deep exhaustion—the mental load, relentless micro-decisions, and invisible emotional labor that compound over years—and show how it steals energy even on quiet days. From road-trip reflections to birthday milestones and the real logistics of keeping life running, we connect the dots between responsibility, capacity, and why the smallest question can feel like a breaking point.

    We unpack decision fatigue with real examples: the constant “what’s for dinner,” the health appointments you juggle, the family calendars you manage, and the diplomacy you perform to keep peace. Then we name the emotional labor many women carry—remembering, reminding, smoothing, holding space—and how that ongoing vigilance wears down attention and patience. You’ll hear practical, compassionate ways to create relief, not just rest: fewer obligations, firmer boundaries, less explaining, and honest limits that match your current season.

    Expect clear, workable ideas you can put to use today. Learn how to offload choices with simple systems, embrace no as a complete sentence, and choose ease without guilt through routines, defaults, and meal planning. We reframe rest as fuel rather than a prize, and we invite you to spend energy only where it truly matters. You’re not broken, lazy, or failing—you’re human, and you’ve carried a lot. If you’re ready to feel lighter and protect your bandwidth, press play, take what you need, and try one small change this week. If this conversation helps, share it with a friend and leave a quick review so others can find it too.

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    17 mins
  • Slow Down To Live More
    Jan 16 2026

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    What if the fastest way to feel better isn’t faster at all? On a solo drive from Chicago to Flagstaff along Route 66, I kept catching myself trying to beat the ETA, race the clock, and turn every mile into a metric. Then the open road—and a few ridiculous roadside stops—reminded me: you don’t get extra points for arriving early, you just get more tired. So I tested a different rule set. Stop when hungry. Rest when tired. Choose the safer workout. Take the scenic detour for a laugh. The world kept spinning, and my shoulders finally dropped.

    We dig into why slowing down feels suspicious, especially for those of us raised to earn rest only when everything is done. I talk about urgency as a default setting, how busyness gets mistaken for worth, and the quiet fear that pausing means falling behind. A slow-rolling house on the highway becomes the metaphor: it kept moving while I paused, and yet I passed it again—proof that pace is less linear than we think. We walk through practical, low-drama strategies: leave earlier, say “let me think,” take mental health days without backfilling them, and let silence do its work in conversation. Your calm does not need to match someone else’s chaos, and someone else’s poor planning doesn’t become your emergency.

    There’s also the deeper payoff: discernment. With age comes the ability to choose fewer, better plans, protect energy, and notice who and what actually feels good. I share the travel choices that prioritized safety over ego, the inner voice that got louder when the schedule got lighter, and the reminder that what’s meant for you won’t pass you by because you paused. Speed is optional. Presence is not. If you’re craving permission to breathe, this one’s your green light.

    If this resonated, subscribe, share it with a friend who’s always “on,” and leave a quick review. What’s one thing you’ll do slower this week?

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    25 mins
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