Melissa joins Mary to celebrate 20 years of Toast & Jam! They reveal the scrappy origin story, relive some truly unhinged wedding moments, and spill brand-building secrets that turned a side hustle into a staple. Along the way, they get real about authenticity, representation, and carving out space in an industry that hasn’t always offered female DJs the aux cord.

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Mary teams up with data queen Jean Clipperton to do what the internet has been trying to do for years: scientifically analyze Taylor Swift’s feelings. Yes, we’re talking spreadsheets, sentiment analysis, and emotional algorithms applied to pop’s most dissected discography. Because if anyone deserves peer-reviewed heartbreak, it’s Taylor. Mary and Jean dive into why studying women in music actually matters, how computational tools can map emotional landscapes across albums, and Taylor’s sacred and emotionally devastating “track fives.” Spoiler: the data confirms what we already knew. She feels a lot.

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Legendary music journalist Jessica Hopper joins Mary to unpack the cultural shift that was Lilith Fair and why it still matters. They dig into Jessica’s journey through music journalism, the making of the Lilith Fair documentary, and how a festival led by women somehow became radical just by existing. It’s a love letter to community, a reality check on progress, and a reminder that women in music have always been the movement, whether the industry was ready or not.

You can watch “Lilith Fair: Building a Mystery” on Hulu.

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Learn more about Jessica’s criticism and creative endeavors: https://jessicahopper.work/

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