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Have you ever won an argument, only to walk away feeling tense, disconnected and strangely empty?

In this insightful episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger management expert Alastair Duhs explores one surprisingly common habit that quietly destroys relationships: the need to be right.

Joined by AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah, this deep-dive conversation reveals how the urge to win arguments fuels anger, escalates conflict and slowly erodes trust and emotional safety, even in otherwise loving relationships.

Through real-world examples and practical strategies, this episode shows why being “right” often comes at a far higher cost than we realise.

Rather than focusing on blame or suppression, the discussion highlights a powerful alternative: choosing understanding over ego and calm over correctness.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in repeating arguments, defensive reactions or lingering resentment, this episode offers simple, practical shifts that can dramatically change how your conversations, and relationships, feel.

Key Takeaways:

1. The need to be right is one of the biggest hidden drivers of anger and relationship breakdown.
2. Winning an argument often makes the other person feel wrong. And that feeling damages trust.
3. Many arguments shift from problem-solving to ego defence without us realising it.
4. Catching the moment you start defending your ego is a crucial early warning sign.
5. Letting go of being right doesn’t mean giving up your values — it means choosing understanding.
6. Asking curious, open-ended questions lowers defensiveness and improves communication.
7. Prioritising calm over correctness reduces stress and creates safer, healthier relationships.

Links referenced in this episode:

1. angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management
2. angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycle
3. angersecrets.com/course — Enrol in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Do you ever feel like you’re having the same argument over and over again?

In this practical episode of The Anger Management Podcast, anger management expert Alastair Duhs is joined by AI co-hosts Jake and Sarah to explore three essential relationship skills most people are never taught, yet desperately need.

This episode breaks down why conflict keeps repeating even in relationships where both people care, and why struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Instead it usually means no one ever taught you the right tools.

Drawing on over 30 years of real-world anger management experience, this conversation focuses on what actually helps couples reduce conflict, communicate more effectively and rebuild connection.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in cycles of frustration, defensiveness or emotional distance, this episode gives you clear, practical strategies you can start using immediately.

Key Takeaways:

1. Conflict isn’t the problem — how you handle it is what determines whether a relationship grows or erodes.
2. Trying to “win” arguments quietly destroys trust, connection and emotional safety over time.
3. Active listening means understanding first, not preparing your defence — and it changes everything.
4. Asking open, non-judgmental questions lowers defensiveness and invites real connection.
5. Healthy relationships require intentional maintenance, not just crisis management.
6. Small, consistent habits like quality time and appreciation matter far more than grand gestures.
7. Struggling in relationships often reflects a skills gap — not a personal failure.

Links referenced in this episode:

1. angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management
2. angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycle
3. angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.

Do you ever feel like your anger explodes out of nowhere? In this transformative episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs dives deep into why anger often feels instant and uncontrollable.

Through powerful insights and practical tools, you'll learn how to spot hidden tension, unlearn old habits and stay calm even in the most stressful moments.

Key Takeaways:

-Your anger isn’t sudden—it’s the result of hidden tension building throughout the day.

-Simple body cues like tight jaws and shallow breathing can help you spot anger early.

-Anger is often a learned habit, not a fixed personality trait—and habits can be changed.

-Cognitive reframing lets you swap out explosive thoughts for calmer, more helpful ones.

-Even in a heated moment, your brain has time to choose a new response—if you train it to.

Links referenced in this episode:

angersecrets.com — Learn more about anger management

angersecrets.com/training — Watch the free training: Breaking the Anger Cycle

angersecrets.com/course — Enroll in The Complete Anger Management System