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Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

Around the Kinky Kampfire Podcast

Written by: Julius Marques
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Kinky, Queer, Non-monogamy, some geeky, and all things in-between. Working to make Kink and Non-Monogamy no longer a stigma. New episodes Thursdays!

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  • From Small Talk To Consent: Building Better Conversations In Kink And Beyond | S4 EP116
    Feb 19 2026

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    What if your next conversation actually moved something—clarity, trust, desire—instead of just filling the air? We take a practical, unflinching look at how to communicate with intention, especially where authority exchange, kink dynamics, and real‑world constraints collide.

    We start by trading the myth of “natural charisma” for craft. Using a simple conversational compass, we ask whether you’re aiming for information or relationship value before you speak, and how to guess your partner’s goals without slipping into mind‑reading. From there, we climb the topic pyramid with purpose—small talk to deep talk—while keeping curiosity alive through a two‑to‑one rhythm of questions to personal share. When energy dips, levity and vivid stories revive the room; when emotions rise, kindness aims your response at what the other person actually needs, not what proves you right.

    Consent threads through every move we make: voluntary, informed, ongoing, and always revocable. We unpack how that plays out in kink scenes, polycules, and vanilla relationships—where ideals meet logistics. Public play raises bystander boundaries; 24/7 fantasies meet jobs and families; stereotypes shape how scenes are perceived. We talk safety, etiquette, and the value of entering new spaces slowly, learning written and unwritten rules, and letting silence be a green flag instead of a gap to fear. Finally, we revisit needs and boundaries lists without shame, turning repeated friction into clear agreements that support hotter, safer connection.

    If you’re ready to stop guessing and start creating real value with your words—and your pauses—hit play. Subscribe, leave a review, and tell us: which maxim will you practice this week?

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    Got a burning question about kink, BDSM, relationships, and/or navigating the wild world of alternative lifestyles?

    Send in your questions. No topic is too taboo, no curiosity too small! We’re all making mistakes, growing, and exploring together!Submit your questions anonymously at aroundthekinkykampfire@yahoo.com or slide into our DMs at Twitter-KinkyKampfire, YT-AroundtheKinkyKampfire, IG-KampfireKinksters. Let’s keep the fire going!

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  • White Claw, Small Town Drama, And Big Poly Feelings | Reddit Q&A | S4 EP115
    Feb 12 2026

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    Ever feel pressured to reshape your heart to fit someone else’s relationship model? We dive straight into the mess and the magic of modern non-monogamy with a frank look at three hot Reddit topics: saying no to open relationships, decoding what “solo poly” really means, and how to handle meta check-ins without turning them into gossip circles. No fluff—just hard truths, practical boundaries, and a few laughs along the way.

    First up, we talk about relationship orientation like it’s meant to be treated: as real as sexual orientation. If exclusivity is how you bond, you’re not broken or “behind.” You’re compatible with some partners and incompatible with others. We dig into the difference between monogamy, non-monogamy, and that gray “monogamish” space—and how to decide which lane you actually want, not the one you think you should tolerate.

    Then we pull apart the misuse of “solo poly.” It’s not a fancy way of saying you’re single. It’s a structural choice: no cohabitation, no merged finances, no marriage or co-parenting, and a commitment to self-governance. Time and attention aren’t dictated by the label; they’re negotiated. If you’re solo poly-ish or closer to relationship anarchy, we offer clear language for what you will and won’t share, and how to keep expectations clean.

    Finally, we lay down a simple rule for metas: talk to your partner about partner issues; talk to your meta about meta issues. We set a template for information-sharing agreements—what to disclose, what to keep private, and how to handle sexual details, health, and scheduling without creating a triangle of resentment. We also tackle the small-town, workplace romance combo and why it magnifies every slip, plus how to protect your peace if that’s your reality.

    If you’re sorting your labels, defining your boundaries, or cleaning up messy info flows, this one’s for you. Subscribe, share with a friend who needs clearer agreements, and leave a review telling us your hardest boundary you won’t bend.


    First story - https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/comments/1qq2xhf/i_feel_like_im_wrong_for_not_being_able_to_be_in/

    Second story -

    https://www.reddit.com/r/nonmonogamy/comments/1qq2xhf/i_feel_like_im_wrong_for_not_being_able_to_be_in/

    Third story - https://www.reddit.com/r/polyamory/comments/1qq9bc4/sharing_with_meta/




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    23 mins
  • Why “Date Till You Hate” Wastes Your Life | S4 EP114
    Feb 5 2026

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    Dating shouldn’t require stockpiling resentment just to make leaving feel easy. We take apart the “date till you hate” trend and talk honestly about why slow fading is just avoidance with better lighting. From attachment patterns to the fear of being the “bad guy,” we unpack the real drivers behind emotional checkout and show how that choice drains self-trust, confuses partners, and turns love into a holding pattern.

    You’ll hear a candid look at the costs of waiting for hate—how micro-withdrawals add up, why your partner likely senses the shift, and what happens to your identity when you keep ignoring your own needs. Then we pivot to solutions. We walk through a practical needs-wants-boundaries exercise, simple language for initiating a hard conversation, and a clear path to ending things with dignity when change isn’t possible. If leases, money, or shared routines keep you frozen, we outline how to plan the logistics so your courage isn’t fighting your calendar.

    This is a call to act, not to stew. Clarity is kinder than silence. Boundaries beat bitterness. And choosing a clean exit isn’t villainy—it’s maturity and respect for two lives. If you’ve been hovering in limbo, this conversation gives you the tools and the nudge to move. Listen, take notes, and then take one step: write your list, book the talk, or set a date for change.

    If this hit home, follow the show, share it with a friend who needs the push, and leave a quick review so more people find it. Your next honest move could save both of you years.

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    23 mins
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