In shame-based cultures, when a parent doesn't like something the child is doing, often times they discipline the kid's behavior but the child herself feels like she is a bad girl. She takes on guilt, embarrasment and feels like she has "failed" her family. Unless this is undone, she will carry all the anxiety of just being "herself" into adulthood.

This episode connects the dots on why so many Asians have a hard time just being "themselves" and how to stop the cycle of being afraid of others' opinions of us.

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[00:00] Teaser

[00:47] Episode 14 Intro

[02:00] Expecting the Worst

[02:48] What happened to your podcast?

[06:23] How Shame Started

[08:47] Before Shame Stole Our Joy

[11:09] When We Don't Meet Our Own Expectations

[13:11] Self-Sabotage

[16:19] Yoga and Meditation won't fix it

[18:42] BREAK

[19:19] Cycles of Shame

[22:11] What Does Shame Look Like?

[25:48] Jeanny's Journey to Weed Out Old Shame

[33:05] Shame Assessement

[34:42] Affirmation

[39:17] Preview of Season 2

Theme Song: Imagine by Zoo

Mid-roll Song: Making Progress by Dan Phillipson

Affirmation Song: Sky High by AK

Post-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

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Asian women experience shame as little girls. We start feeling not good enough all the way into our career. This habit negatively affects us in all aspects of work and personal relationships. We end up knowing what we want. So we don't ask and get what we want.

In this episode Jeanny shares examples from her past in she learned she was not good enough. Included in this session is an extra-long affirmation in Part 2 of the Episode for you to gain your confidence back!

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Mid-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

Affirmation Song: Sky High by AK

Post-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

We are trained to unconditionally respect our elders. But this creates problems for us as adults. What if our supervisor is not setting us up for success? Unconditional deference to our boss can result in overworking, anxiety, unfairness, and being stalled in your career.

This episode connects the dots on why so many Asians feel this way, and more importantly how to stop the cycle of being afraid of our supervisors and not advocating for ourselves.

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[00:00] Teaser

[01:16] Episode 12 Intro

[02:44] Scary adults?

[04:30] Social Anxiety

[05:42] Fear of authority figures

[08:18] Remembering adults in your past

[11:01] Bullied for not speaking English well

[11:58] Stern Chinese School Teacher

[14:14] Yelled at for being sick

[16:19] Feeling like a bad daughter

[19:29] Fear of disappointing our parents

[20:38] BREAK

[21:17] Filial Piety Gone Wrong

[21:30] Afraid to Disappoint Your Boss

[23:37] Afraid to Speak up with Your Boss

[25:16] Looking to Your Boss for Approval

[28:38] Thinking You are Not Enough

[28:38] Thinking You are Not Enough

[29:26] The Key to Freedom

[32:21] Affirmation

[36:34] Preview of Episode 13

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Theme Song: Imagine by Zoo

Mid-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo

Affirmation Song: Ghost by Piano Yeti

Post-roll Song: Clarity by Zoo