In this short Ask a Coach episode, Trista challenges the idea that clarity and confidence come from precision. Instead, she introduces a powerful concept inspired by the work of Steve Chandler: coaches don’t need a niche—they need a stand.

A stand creates energy. A stand builds trust. A stand gives people a reason to follow you.

This episode is for coaches who are tired of waiting to feel ready and are ready to lead—imperfectly, courageously, and intentionally.

1. Why trying to nail your niche often keeps you stuck
2. The difference between a niche and a stand—and why a stand matters more
3. How conviction creates confidence (not the other way around)
4. What it really means to lead yourself as a coach
5. How to define what you stand for without overthinking it

1. Confidence is built through commitment and action
2. Emotional resilience is a skill, not a personality trait
3. You don’t need to fix yourself before you move forward
4. Leadership starts when you stop waiting for certainty
5. People follow clarity, not perfection

If this episode resonated, ask yourself one powerful question today:

What do I stand for strongly enough that I’m willing to say it out loud?

And then start there.

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In this episode of 'Ask A Coach,' we share insights from Marcy Holmes, a seasoned relationship coach.

Marcy talks about the essential truth of coaching: while coaches can see and present the best versions of their clients, they must practice detachment and trust their clients' timelines and wisdom.

Marcy elaborates on how to inspire clients to believe in their potential and make changes at their own pace, emphasizing the importance of recognizing clients' inherent capabilities and allowing natural growth.

Key Moments:

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

00:19 Meet Marcy Holmes

00:52 The Core Truth of Coaching

01:10 The Art of Detachment

01:35 Marcy's Insight on Coaching

02:11 Trusting the Client's Journey

You can find Marcy at: Marcy H Coaching – Relationship coaching

Marcy loves helping couples create more connection whether they're currently struggling or want to set a new relationship up for long-term happiness.

In this power-packed mini-episode of Ask a Coach, Reinvention Coach Gail Keyes-Allen drops the truth every new coach needs to tattoo on their brain: don’t believe everything you think.

Gail introduces us to the concept of being “scared-sighted” — that wild blend of fear and excitement that hits the moment you step into your new identity as a coach. She explains why this feeling doesn’t mean something’s gone wrong… it means everything is going exactly right.

If you’ve ever thought:

• “My niche isn’t good enough.”
• “I’m unqualified.”
• “I’m behind.”
• “My ideal client won’t find me.”

…then Gail is here to remind you: none of that is true.

It’s just your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

Gail built a six-figure coaching business at 65 after leaving a 20-year accounting career — and today, at 69, she’s proof that identity shifts don’t come from confidence…. they come from courage. She’s living her most powerful chapter and helping women do the same.

Her message for new coaches is simple and extraordinary:

“You can’t mess this up. Your fear isn’t a stop sign. Let those scared thoughts ride in the backseat while you drive.”

This episode is your reminder to trust your desire, trust your excitement, and — above all — don’t stop.

• “Scared-sighted” is normal — it’s what growth feels like.
• Your anxious thoughts aren’t instructions; they’re just noise.
• Confidence doesn’t come first — stretching yourself does.
• Every coach you admire started unsure and overthinking too.
• Your lived experience is your qualification.
• Reinvention has no age limit — your next chapter can be your most powerful.

Gail is a Reinvention Coach who helps women 50+ whose life looks good on paper but whose soul is calling for more. She left a long, successful accounting career at 65, built a six-figure coaching business in her first year, and now dedicates her work to helping women reclaim their power, rewrite the rules, and launch purpose-driven businesses.

At 69, she is living proof that dreams don’t expire — and neither do you.

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