When we hear the word foreplay, most of us immediately think about the bedroom. But intimacy in marriage was never meant to be confined to a single moment behind closed doors. Today, we're talking about foreplay 24/7/36 the idea that emotional, spiritual, and relational connection is built continually, hour by hour, day by day. We'll explore how intentional connection outside the bedroom sets the stage for deeper intimacy inside it, why this matters so much for the health of our marriage, and how small, everyday choices can radically change the temperature of our relationship.

Episode Highlights:

What happens in the bedroom is directly affected by what happens outside the bedroom.

There are five types of intimacy that every strong marriage needs.

The goal is not perfection, it's progress.

Quotes from this Episode:

When couples neglect the other four intimacies and they only focus on the physical the relationship becomes transactional sex becomes about physical release instead of real connection. - Dr. Kim

That's often how affairs begin, not with physical attraction, but with unmet emotional needs. - Dr. Kim

When intimacy is only in the bedroom, the temperature of the marriage runs cold. - Dr. Kim

Replace bad patterns with good ones. Don't just stop the negative, start positive. Instead of scrolling, ask about their day. Instead of logistics, share something you're grateful for about them and finally give each other grace. -Dr. Kim

When you come home, prioritize your spouse above anything else. -Dr. Kim

When there's unresolved tension,when there's hurt or anger or distance, that vulnerability feels unsafe. -Dr. Kim

Awkward is better than distant. Have the conversation. -Dr. Kim

Intimacy isn't built in a single grand gesture. It's rebuilt, one conversation, one touch, one prayer at a time. -Dr. Kim

Questions Worth Discussing:

1. What's one moment from today (or this week) where we felt connected—or disconnected—and why do you think that was?
   
   

2. Did anything in the episode help you see everyday moments differently when it comes to intimacy or connection?
   
   

3. What's one small thing we could do differently this week to stay more connected outside the bedroom?
   

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

• Make sure you're checking in with your spouse every week!

• Make sex better for BOTH of you — by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month's Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to see what God's Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out Embracing the Gift of Sex in Marriage: Looking Through a Biblical Lens Part 1

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

Today on the Awesome Marriage Podcast, we're joined by Dan Purcell, creator of Get Your Marriage On! and the Intimately Us app. Dan is passionate about helping Christian couples build stronger, healthier marriages through better communication, playful intimacy, and gospel-centered connection. In this conversation, we explore the powerful link between spiritual and sexual intimacy in marriage. From God's design for sex to common misconceptions, practical habits, and healing struggles in the bedroom, Dan shares how faith and intimacy were always meant to work together. This episode offers encouragement and actionable wisdom for couples who want to honor God while cultivating deeper passion, joy, and closeness in their marriage.

Episode Highlights:

Experiencing really good sex in marriage requires living with virtue.

What works in marriage will change over time. You must be willing to adapt together.

Repair work is most of the work in marriage.

Quotes from this Episode:

This is a gift from God. He gave it to us to enjoy.

You can't love a person you don't know.

The more honest we can be about things, the better our marriage will be.

Sex can be really fun. It can be incredibly replenishing. It can be good for your health.

You want to get to a place where you're at ease talking about sex.

Questions Worth Discussing:

1. What part of this conversation felt most relatable to where we are right now?
   
   

2. Did anything we heard make you think differently about how our faith and our intimacy connect—or even just spark a new thought?
   
   

3. What's one small way we could be more intentional with each other this week—emotionally, spiritually, or physically?

Mentioned in this Episode:

• Get to know Dan Purcell

• Listen to the Get Your Marriage On! With Dan Purcell podcast

• Awesome Marriage is on Instagram!

• Make sex better for both of you- by romancing your spouse the way they actually desire. Check out this month's Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance

• Want an opportunity to dig into God's Word with your spouse? Find Awesome Marriage on YouVersion. Want to see what God's Word says about sex and intimacy? Check out Embracing the Gift of Sex in Marriage: Looking Through a Biblical Lens Part 1

• If you haven't browsed our site, you've GOT to check out the marriage resources we have over at AwesomeMarriage.com, and browse our online courses at AwesomeMarriageUniversity.com !

• Sign up for Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email for practical weekly marriage tips!

• Now is the perfect time to join our Marriage Changers program. Enjoy every resource of the month plus bonus content from Dr. Kim and Mrs. Nancy. Join now, just in time to receive our Sexy Bundle: His and Hers Romance