Connection, intimacy, and consent, this week the B&B pod talks with an educator with more than 30 years of experience. He tells us about his career transition from IT to kink/sexuality education and changes in the kink community. Listen and learn about his model of negotiated power vs. structural power, giving and receiving in relationships, and modes of consent. Our free-spirited conversation with Max touches on age gap relationships, intention and identity in kink, and saying yes when you should say no.


The Guest

Max has been active in Seattle's kink community since 1992 and has taught workshops and offered private coaching since 1999. He has spent a lifetime building a range of skills, to include the intimacy of rope bondage, the intensity of the singletail, the connection of erotic hypnosis, and the power of authority-transfer (D/S) relationships. Max is always the consummate professional. He loves what he does and is grateful for opportunities to help others explore kink and find deeper connection. Find him at www.ExploreYourKink.com

Some Resources

Dr. Betty Martin - The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent
https://bettymartin.org/

Calling In vs Callout / Cancel Culture. with Loretta J. Ross
https://lorettajross.com/

Some Books

The New Bottoming Book by Janet Hardy

The New Topping Book by Janet Hardy

At the heart of sex positivity is communication, a skill that people with autism spectrum disorder struggle with every day of their lives. This week's guest on the B&B pod is "Peanutbutter," who has overcome many of his challenges through exploring alternative sexuality communities, groups, and technologies. Listen to his story to learn how pushing comfort zones is an effective way to fight fear, and become a more self-actualized person... And check out his "Playbuddy" app, designed to connect kinksters to local events!

The Guest
Peanutbutter (Toli Zaslavskiy) entered the kink scene a year ago, and it’s had a profound impact on his life. It’s helped him navigate the challenges of autism and bipolar disorder by offering a supportive space to process emotions, explore connection, and practice the tools needed for social interaction and energy and mood regulation.

The Resources

• Playbuddy - https://l.playbuddy.me/bald-bodacious
• ⁠Pagan’s Paradise - https://www.pagansparadise.com/events-calendar | IG: @pagansparadise
• ⁠AcroTantra - IG: @acrotantra
• ⁠Everyday Tantra - https://www.everydaytantra.com/
• ⁠Book: Existential Kink: by Carolyn Elliott

Mookie and Jefe, two bald guys who've known each other since high school, are eager to share their alternative sexual experiences and those of their guests. Topics range from kink to BDSM, polyamory to tantric sex. In this kickoff episode they introduce themselves, set their goals, and extend an invitation for listeners and all those who want to share their own stories to trigger open and honest explorations!