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Becoming Secure

Becoming Secure

Written by: Vicki Pavitt
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Listen in with Dating and Relationship Coach Vicki Pavitt for grounded, honest conversations to help you navigate dating and relationships with more self-trust, confidence and ease. Blending psychology, neuroscience, lived experience and real love stories, Becoming Secure explores what it takes to create healthier, more secure and more connected relationships.

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  • Attachment Styles and Becoming Secure in Love & Life with Dr Amir Levine
    May 15 2026

    In this very first episode of Becoming Secure, I'm joined by psychiatrist, neuroscientist and bestselling author Dr Amir Levine to talk about attachment styles, the neuroscience of connection and what it really means to become secure in love and life.

    Dr Amir Levine is the co-author of 'Attached' - the groundbreaking book that has transformed the way millions of people understand dating, relationships and attachment styles. This book has had such a profound impact on me, both professionally and personally. And now, his new book 'Secure' is blowing my mind all over again - when you read the book you'll see why!

    In the episode, we talk about:

    • The powerful impact that safe and connected relationships have on our health and happiness
    • Attachment gaslighting and learning to honour your attachment needs
    • The superpowers of the anxious attachment style
    • How small everyday interactions can reshape our brains
    • How to date more securely and recognise emotional availability early on
    • Why healthy love can feel unfamiliar and even boring at first
    • The impact secure relationships have on our nervous systems
    • The five pillars of building a secure life and the tools Dr Levine uses to help people become more secure
    • Plus so much more!

    This episode is full of insight, compassion, practical guidance and hopeful reminders that change is possible.

    For more information on Dr Amir Levine's work, head to his website here.

    For his books, check out Attached here and Secure here (use the code Secure26 for 25% off at Waterstones - valid until the end of May 2026).

    For more information about me and my 1:1 love coaching programmes, head over here and here.

    I really hope you love this episode!

    Vicki x


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