Modern intimacy is changing fast. As committed polyamory moves from whisper networks into more visible cultural conversation, the question of structure matters. Who coordinates schedules, mediates conflict, holds boundaries, and keeps the household culture intact? This article argues that centering women in leadership roles within committed polyamorous constellations can produce clearer consent, stronger safety, and better emotional management, and it contrasts that ethical model with a grotesque sci‑fi image used as a moral foil: the horror of people reduced to commodities in alien‑farm narratives.

Attraction and association: a precarious gravity
Some people, by history, habit, or circumstance, draw toward them a particular kind of company—individuals who traffic in violence, intimidation, or the darker trades that prey on vulnerability and trade in torture. That gravity isn’t always about choice: it can be the residue of old reputations, informal debts, shared survival strategies, or the narrow local economies that kept them afloat. Whatever the cause, the presence of those associates changes the texture of everyday life for the person trying to rebuild and for everyone around them.

I used to think my love life was a comedy of errors. Now I see it as a strange recurring motif: men who start ordinary and, over months or years, begin to believe they’re central to some grand design. They don’t arrive convinced they’ll “rule the world.” That conviction grows — an accretion of small choices, stories, attention, and the cultural static we all breathe. I’m not seeking out men with delusions of grandeur. I’ve never set out to become anyone’s crown or court. Still, the pattern keeps showing up, and I’ve learned to read it, name it, and write about it. Eventually they all think they are the devil and rule the world, i guess i just make men feel that wonderful.