In this bonus episode, I respond to a popular influencer whose content focuses on teaching people how to "keep their partner happy." While this message can sound harmless or even helpful, it often carries a deeper and more damaging assumption: that someone must perform, change, or continually improve themselves in order to deserve their partner's faithfulness.

Let's be clear. In a committed relationship, fidelity is not something that must be earned. It is a baseline expectation that comes with commitment.

In this episode, we explore why the idea that a person must stay attractive, fun, agreeable, or emotionally available at all times in order to prevent betrayal places responsibility in the wrong place. We talk about how this kind of messaging fuels anxiety, self-blame, and fear, especially for those healing after infidelity. We also name what actually sustains trust in long-term relationships: integrity, personal accountability, and emotional maturity.

If you have ever wondered whether you did enough, were enough, or need to keep proving your worth in order to feel secure in your relationship, this episode is for you.

You do not earn fidelity. You are not responsible for managing someone else's choices. And you do not have to become a version of yourself that feels inauthentic in order to keep a committed partner faithful.

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What happens after you decide to stay — even temporarily — following infidelity?

For many betrayed partners, staying doesn't bring relief. It brings confusion, shame, pressure, and a constant sense of urgency to "figure everything out." In this episode, we slow the moment down.

This is not about deciding whether reconciliation will work. It's about helping you stabilize, ground yourself, and take wise next steps when your world has been turned upside down.

In this episode, we'll talk about:

• Why you don't need to make permanent decisions right now

• The most common mistakes betrayed partners make early on

• How to protect yourself emotionally while things feel chaotic

• Who to tell — and who not to tell — about the affair

• Why compassion toward yourself is not optional in betrayal recovery

You'll also be introduced to the G.R.A.C.E. Reset, a simple framework you can return to when emotions spike and clarity feels out of reach.

If you've stayed after infidelity and are wondering "Now what?" — this episode is your starting point.

Click HERE to access the G.R.A.C.E. Reset

Looking for a coach to walk this journey with you? Schedule a free consultation with Coach Monica.

New Year's resolutions promise fresh starts—but after betrayal, they often leave us feeling behind, ashamed, or broken. In this first episode of Betrayed & Stayed, Monica explores why traditional goal-setting fails those of us healing from infidelity and grief—and what to do instead. This episode offers a gentler, trauma-aware way to enter the new year, one that honors accountability and grace, without rushing your healing or abandoning yourself along the way.

Monica works primarily with betrayed partners who have chosen to stay and rebuild after infidelity. If you're curious about whether coaching support could be helpful for you, you can schedule a free consultation through the link below or explore additional resources on Monica's website.

Key Points:

• Capacity changes throughout healing journey

• Don't need to know entire path or feel hopeful daily

• Uncertainty is life's only guarantee

• Showing up imperfectly still counts

• Currently grieving, healing, and standing = exactly where you should be

• Focus: stay curious, grounded, and true to yourself

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