In this episode of Between the Sheets we unpack The CEO Trap a common pattern where high-functioning, capable women find that the very competence that built their lives is quietly killing intimacy and desire in their relationships.

If you've ever thought "I can run a business, but why is love so hard?" or "I feel needed, not desired," this episode is for you where we explore how over functioning, control, and emotional self-sufficiency can block chemistry and what it really takes to move from manager to partner in love.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

- What the CEO Trap is and how competence can turn into control
- Why attraction needs polarity and space, not management
- How over-functioning leads to boredom, resentment and disconnection
- The link between childhood survival strategies and adult intimacy
- Why chemistry dies when responsibility dominates desire
- How dating potential keeps your armour firmly in place
- Why passive partners are often drawn to highly competent people
- The emotional cost of being relied on instead of chosen

Key Takeaways:

- Competence as a survival strategy: For many women, being capable meant safety, love, and control but that armour blocks closeness in adult relationships.
- Over-functioning vs. intimacy: When you manage everything, there's no room for your partner to meet you.
- Sex & desire: Responsibility is not sexy. When intimacy becomes transactional, desire drops.
- Resentment cycle: The more you do, the more you resent and the less your partner steps up.
- Dating reality, not potential: Chemistry doesn't grow from construction projects.

Practical Shifts Dr. Lurve Recommends:

- Practice receiving (without correcting, deflecting, or managing)
- Ask directly for what you need instead of silently coping
- Let your partner lead in one domain and don't micromanage it
- Learn repair language instead of control language
- Choose consistency and current behaviour over future promises

You don't need to be less powerful to have love you just need less armour. You're allowed to rest, to be met and to be chosen not relied upon. Love requires risk, space, and trust, not constant management.

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

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See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

If you’ve ever celebrated a “Good morning” text like it was a grand romantic gesture, mistook crumbs for commitment or convinced yourself that your anxiety was chemistry, this conversation is going to hit home in the best possible way.

This episode is your wakeup call, your nervous system hug and your permission slip to never entertain bare minimum behavior again.

In This Episode, We Cover:

- Why Women Are Conditioned to Accept Less Than They Deserve
- Emotional, Social & Generational Training that Creates Overfunctioning
- How Childhood Attachment Shapes Attraction to Inconsistent Men
- The Nervous System: Why “Bare Minimum” Can Feel Like Love
- Potential vs. Reality: The Trap of Investing in Who He Could Be
- The 10 Signs You’re Dating a Bare Minimum Man
- The Feminine Shift: From Hyperindependence to Softness & Standards
- How to Raise Your Standards Without Feeling Guilty
- Reprogramming Overgiving & Overfunctioning
- Letting the Wrong Man Eliminate Himself
- What Happens When You Finally Meet a Man Who Shows Up

Key Takeaways:

- Women don’t accept bare minimum because they’re “stupid”, conditioning chooses for them
- Your nervous system may mistake inconsistency for love because that’s what felt familiar
- Healing makes you allergic to bare minimum behavior
- You are not asking for too much, you were asking the wrong person
- Standards aren’t demands; they’re boundaries
- You don’t need to explain your standards. You embody them
- Raising your standards may feel scary at first, that’s your nervous system rewiring
- A man aligned with you will rise; a bare minimum man will exit. Both are blessings.
- When you meet real emotional safety, you’ll never settle for crumbs again

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

Connect + Share

If this episode hit home, share it with the friend

Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most.

Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime.

See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

Welcome back to a brand new season of Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.

In this week’s episode, we dive deep into a relationship pattern so many people confuse for “chemistry,” when what we’re actually feeling is the body’s addiction to chaos. This episode is your guided tour through emotional intensity: why it feels like love and how to break the trauma loops that keep you chasing relationships that burn hot, crash hard and leave you feeling empty.

In This Episode, We Cover:

- The Myth of “Chemistry”
- The Science Behind the Addiction
- Childhood Roots of Chaos Based Attraction
- The Trauma Loop Explained
- How to Break the Pattern
- Why Healthy Love Feels “Boring” at First

Key Takeaways

- You’re not “crazy” for craving intensity, you’re wired for it.
- Addiction in relationships is a nervous system response, not a character flaw.
- Calm love isn’t boring; it’s stable and your body can learn to desire it.
- Healing begins the moment you see your patterns clearly and choose differently.
- You can break the cycle and rewire your emotional chemistry.

Work With Dr. Lurve

Ready to heal your patterns and experience a new kind of love? You can:

- Join a retreat in Bali
- Attend a workshop in Australia
- Start one of Dr. Lurve’s online programs
- Apply for 1:1 coaching
- Connect with the team for support

Connect + Share

If this episode hit home, share it with the friend who’s stuck in her “but he might change” era.

Tag @dr.lurve on Instagram or slide into the DMs with what resonated most.

Have a topic you want Dr. Lurve to unpack? Email or DM anytime.

See you next time on Between the Sheets with Dr. Lurve.