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  • Why We Suffer and How We Heal - With Dr. Suzan Song

    Why We Suffer and How We Heal - With Dr. Suzan Song
    Jul 6 2026
    Psychiatrist Dr. Suzan Song reveals why "just keep going" isn't resilience — it's a trauma response. After hiding from child soldiers in Burundi, she uncovered the hidden cost of high achievement that no one talks about. In this episode, you'll discover: Why performing stability after trauma leads to a breakdown decades later The real difference between pain (unavoidable) and suffering (optional) The Three Friends of Winter — Narrative, Ritual & Purpose — and why they outperform every self-care tool Why building your identity on competence is the most fragile thing a high achiever can do Why more mental health resources are producing more depression, not less Connect with Dr Suzan Song www.suzansong.com Buy the book: Why We Suffer and How We Heal Using Narrative, Ritual, and Purpose to Flourish Through Life's Challenges Connect with Kwame: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life! @kwamenegotiates across all social platforms
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    1 hr and 7 mins
  • The Secret Pattern All High Achievers Share - Ruth Gotian

    The Secret Pattern All High Achievers Share - Ruth Gotian
    Jul 2 2026
    Being told you're "the glue that keeps everything together" sounds like a compliment—until you realize it's the very reason they never considered you for the promotion. Dr. Ruth Gotian spent 15 years being perfect at her job, and it almost cost her everything. Dr. Ruth Gotian is the Chief Learning Officer at Weill Cornell Medicine (recently retired), a Columbia University faculty member, and one of the world's foremost researchers on peak performance. She has interviewed Nobel Prize winners, Olympians, NASA astronauts, and NBA champions—not to report on their habits, but to decode the mindset patterns behind their greatness. Her book The Success Factor has become a roadmap for high achievers who are tired of being overlooked. In this episode, Kwame and Ruth unpack the hidden rules of success that nobody tells you—and what it actually takes to go from invisible to undeniable. Connect with Dr. Ruth Gotian: Website: ruthgotian.com LinkedIn: Search Ruth Gotian The Success Factor — featuring stories from Neil Katyal, Steve Kerr, Bob Lefkowitz, and Peggy Whitson Upcoming book on overlooked high achievers — coming 2027 Connect with Kwame: www.americannegotiationinstitute.com
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    1 hr and 8 mins
  • BONUS: Kwame Gets Interviewed by Trent Shelton

    BONUS: Kwame Gets Interviewed by Trent Shelton
    Jun 30 2026
    Before we transition, we wanted to give you one more gift. This episode wasn't originally planned for the Negotiate Anything feed — it's an interview Kwame did on Trent Shelton's podcast, and it might be one of the most personal conversations he's ever had. Contact ANI ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
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    59 mins
  • I'm Ending Negotiate Anything. Big Swings Only Starts Now.

    I'm Ending Negotiate Anything. Big Swings Only Starts Now.
    Jun 25 2026
    I'm Ending Negotiate Anything. Big Swings Only Starts Now. After 10 years and 1,800+ episodes, I'm closing the chapter on the world's #1 negotiation podcast — and betting everything on what comes next. This is the most honest, unscripted episode I've ever recorded. I'm Kwame Christian — founder and CEO of the American Negotiation Institute, bestselling author, and the host who built Negotiate Anything from a solo credibility play at age 27 into the most downloaded negotiation podcast on the planet. My clients include Google, Apple, NASA, Microsoft, and the Department of Defense. I've trained hundreds of thousands of people to have the conversations that change their lives. This isn't a goodbye. It's a becoming. What's next: Subscribe to Big Swings Only with Kwame Christian — a show about high performers who dared greatly, and what it actually takes to become who you were destined to be. Media inquiries & connections: simon@negotiateanything.com
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    41 mins
  • Master Conflict Without Losing Control: The Secrets of Elite Negotiators

    Master Conflict Without Losing Control: The Secrets of Elite Negotiators
    Jun 22 2026
    Most people don't fail in difficult conversations because they lack knowledge — they fail because they lose control of themselves. In this special episode, our host, negotiation expert Kwame Christian sits down with Ohio State Moritz College of Law Professor Katrina Lee to answer the toughest questions from her law students about negotiation, persuasion, emotional regulation, and conflict. Together, they explore what separates great negotiators from everyone else—from mastering the empathy loop and building genuine trust to using storytelling, curiosity, and strategic listening to influence outcomes. Kwame shares practical techniques for staying calm under pressure, handling interruptions, navigating emotionally charged conversations, and finding confidence when the stakes are high. You'll learn: • Why listening is often more powerful than problem-solving • How to use the 70/30 rule to create deeper connections • The difference between genuine curiosity and strategic curiosity • How storytelling shapes persuasion and decision-making • Techniques for regulating emotions during difficult conversations • Why humility is a hidden superpower in negotiation • How to turn conflict into collaboration without sacrificing your goals Along the way, Kwame shares personal stories from high-stakes business negotiations, lessons from coaching leaders around the world, and the mindset shifts that have helped millions of listeners become more effective communicators. Whether you're a lawyer, leader, salesperson, entrepreneur, or simply someone who wants better conversations at work and at home, this episode will give you actionable tools to communicate with more confidence, influence, and emotional intelligence. Because the best negotiators aren't the loudest people in the room—they're the ones who know how to listen. Contact ANI⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
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    1 hr and 19 mins
  • Become a People Magnet: The Nonverbal Habits That Draw Others In - with Linda Clemons

    Become a People Magnet: The Nonverbal Habits That Draw Others In - with Linda Clemons
    Jun 18 2026
    What if the most powerful thing you're communicating is something you're never saying at all? In this captivating masterclass on body language, world-renowned communication expert Linda Clemons reveals how your nonverbal signals can elevate—or sabotage—your influence, relationships, negotiations, and career. Drawing from decades of experience coaching executives, sales leaders, and organizations around the world, Linda shares the hidden cues that determine whether people trust you, listen to you, or tune you out entirely. From the surprising power of presence to the subtle facial expressions that reveal what people are really thinking, Linda breaks down the science and psychology behind human connection in a way that's practical, memorable, and immediately actionable. She also shares a moving story that demonstrates how truly seeing another person can change a life. Whether you're leading a team, closing a deal, navigating difficult conversations, or simply trying to become a better communicator, this episode will transform the way you think about influence. You'll discover why your body language often speaks louder than your words, how to project confidence without saying a word, and what it really means to be fully present with another human being. If you've ever wondered why some people effortlessly command attention and build trust, this conversation holds the answers. In this episode, you'll learn: • Why presence is the foundation of great communication • How body language can strengthen or undermine your message • The nonverbal signals that build trust and connection • Common communication mistakes that push people away • How to read emotional cues others miss • Practical strategies from Linda's bestselling book, *Hush: How to Radiate Power and Confidence Without Saying a Word* This is more than a conversation about body language—it's a lesson in becoming the kind of person people remember, trust, and want to follow. Connect with Linda: Instagram: lindaclemons Linkedin: Linda Clemons Book: Hush: How to Radiate Power and Confidence Without Saying a Word Contact ANI⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
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    1 hr and 20 mins
  • Train Your Mind Like a Leader: Influence, Persuade, and Stay Calm Under Pressure

    Train Your Mind Like a Leader: Influence, Persuade, and Stay Calm Under Pressure
    Jun 15 2026
    What if the secret to influencing people, uncovering the truth, and becoming a better leader isn't authority — it's emotional intelligence? In this powerful conversation, Dr. Sabine Charles shares how her career as a fraud investigator and internal auditor taught her an unexpected lesson: people reveal their deepest truths when they feel understood. From interviewing fraud suspects who "spilled the beans" within minutes to helping professionals overcome performance anxiety and pass high-stakes certification exams, Sabine reveals the mindset and emotional intelligence strategies that transformed her approach to leadership. Together, we explore her MEQ (Mindset, Emotional Intelligence, and Leadership Qualities) framework, the surprising connection between hypnotherapy and peak performance, how to adapt communication across cultures, and why understanding people is far more important than being right. Sabine also shares deeply personal stories about resilience, self-awareness, and staying grounded in your values during life's most challenging moments. Whether you're leading a team, navigating difficult conversations, managing workplace relationships, or simply trying to communicate more effectively, this episode offers practical tools for building trust, influencing change, and elevating your leadership from the inside out. In this episode, you'll learn: • How emotional intelligence helps people open up and trust you • Why persuasion starts with understanding, not convincing • Techniques for managing performance anxiety in high-stakes situations • How to give and receive feedback across cultures • The role of self-awareness, reflection, and mindset in effective leadership • Why leadership begins long before you have a title Connect with Dr. Sabine Charles LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sabine-charles/ Website: https://www.drsabinecharles.com/ Book: Leadership MeQ — available in English, French, Spanish, and Portuguese Contact ANI⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Request A Customized Workshop For Your Company⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow Kwame Christian on LinkedIn⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠negotiateanything.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Click here to buy your copy of Finding Confidence in Conflict: How to Negotiate Anything and Live Your Best Life!
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    1 hr and 1 min
  • Stop Defending Yourself — Start Listening and Win Any Negotiation

    Stop Defending Yourself — Start Listening and Win Any Negotiation
    Jun 11 2026
    What if the biggest threat to your relationship isn’t conflict — it’s the way you communicate during it? In this thought-provoking conversation, negotiation expert and mediator Alice Shikina joins Kwame Christian to reveal why so many successful professionals excel at communication in the boardroom but struggle to connect with the people they love most. Drawing from years of mediation experience, Alice shares a powerful perspective: every relationship is a negotiation, and learning how to negotiate well can transform the way we handle conflict at home. Together, they unpack the hidden communication patterns that fuel arguments, including interruptions, defensiveness, emotional escalation, and the common misconception that listening simply means hearing someone speak. You'll discover why acknowledgment is often the missing ingredient in difficult conversations, how unspoken emotions drive seemingly unrelated conflicts, and why de-escalation begins long before an argument starts. Whether you're navigating challenges with a spouse, partner, child, colleague, or friend, this episode offers practical tools to help you listen more deeply, communicate more effectively, and strengthen your most important relationships. Key topics include: * Why every relationship is a negotiation * The real reason people feel unheard * How to prevent conversations from escalating * The role of emotional intelligence in conflict resolution * Why "I hear you" isn't enough * Practical techniques for active listening and acknowledgment * Creating relationship ground rules that actually work If you've ever walked away from a conversation feeling misunderstood—or struggled to understand someone else—this episode will change the way you think about communication forever. Connect with Alice: 🎙️ Podcast: Negotiation with Alice 📖 Don't Sleep on the Couch: Winning More Arguments Without Losing Your Marriage — coming soon 📖 Influenceable — also forthcoming 🌐 https://www.shikinamediation.com/
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    1 hr and 9 mins