If love has ever felt like anxiety, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we talk about why so many of us learned to chase perfection—not because we’re controlling or “too much,” but because somewhere along the way, love felt inconsistent. And when love feels unpredictable, our nervous systems do what they can to stay safe.

We explore how fear of abandonment shows up in relationships and even in our faith, why performance can never create real security, and how consistency—not perfection—is what actually heals.

Because healing doesn’t happen when you finally get everything right.
It happens when love proves it will stay.

If this month stirred something in you, this episode is a gentle exhale—a reminder that you are not broken, you adapted. And you don’t have to rush your way into safety.

You were never meant to be perfect to be loved.

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What if the problem was never that you were “too much”…
What if your nervous system simply learned a different language of love?

In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli gently explore what secure love actually feels like—not as a definition or diagnosis, but as a lived, embodied experience.

Together, they get curious about the patterns many of us grew up with: love that felt intense, unpredictable, or required constant vigilance. They talk about why calm can feel suspicious, why consistency can feel underwhelming, and why safety sometimes feels unfamiliar when chaos was once normal.

This conversation isn’t about fixing yourself or labeling your attachment style. It’s about releasing shame and asking kinder questions—of your body, your story, and even God.

You’ll hear about:

• Why secure love often feels quiet instead of exciting

• How the nervous system clings to what’s familiar—even when it’s painful

• Why walking away from healthy love isn’t self-sabotage, but protection

• How curiosity softens shame and opens the door to healing

• A gentle faith lens on unfamiliar peace and steady love

There’s no pressure here. No checklist. No “do better.”

Just an invitation to notice, to get curious, and to remember:
You’re not behind. You’re becoming.

Have you ever felt like the more you lean in, the more someone pulls away?

Or the moment you take space, someone panics?

In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli gently unpack what’s often called the anxious–avoidant dance....not to label or diagnose you, but to name a pattern so you can finally stop thinking you are the problem.

Together, they talk honestly about:

• what anxious and avoidant attachment actually look like in real life

• why texting and conflict can feel so activating

• how both sides are simply trying to feel safe, using opposite strategies

• and why not responding right away is somethmes a capacity issue

They also share personal insight around fearful-avoidant attachment, earned security, and what it looks like to care deeply while learning to honor your nervous system.

This is a shame-free conversation for anyone who:

• feels conflicted inside relationships

• loves deeply but tires easily

• wants connection and needs space

• is learning how to feel safe with themselves again

You’ll leave with a sense of clarity, compassion, and a few gentle anchor questions to return to when things feel confusing. No pressure, no fixing, just awareness.

We’re not rushing.
We’re not proving.
We’re healing.

And as always… we send you off with so much love. 🤍