Episodes

  • #144 When Love Becomes a Threat: How Betrayal Rewires the Nervous System—and What Helps

    #144 When Love Becomes a Threat: How Betrayal Rewires the Nervous System—and What Helps
    Jan 29 2026
    After betrayal, many couples believe they’re struggling with communication—but what’s really happening is much deeper. Betrayal doesn’t just break trust; it rewires the nervous system, changing how safety is experienced inside the relationship. In this episode, we explore why conversations feel loaded after betrayal, why small behaviors can feel overwhelming, and how nervous system responses—like defensiveness, shutdown, or hypervigilance—keep couples stuck in painful cycles. You’ll learn why this isn’t about being “too sensitive” or “never enough,” but about how the body responds when relational safety has been compromised.Whether you are a betrayed partner, the one rebuilding trust, or a couple navigating healing together, this episode offers compassionate insight, practical nervous system tools, and a powerful reframe that helps interrupt the trauma loop—without blame or shame.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingIf today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 20–25, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalJoin My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com
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    24 mins
  • #143 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC

    #143 Staying When You’re the Only One Doing the Work — with Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC
    Jan 22 2026
    What does it really mean to stay grounded in yourself when you’re the one doing the emotional work in the relationship?In this episode, I’m joined by Tammy Gustafson, MA, LPC—trauma-informed licensed professional counselor, coach, speaker, founder of Betrayal Healing and LiveFree Counseling, host of the annual Betrayal Healing Conference, and author of Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing from Intimate Betrayal.Together, we explore one of the most painful and confusing realities many betrayed partners face: being committed to healing while your partner is slow, avoidant, or inconsistent in their growth.This conversation is not about abusive dynamics. It’s for the woman who is trying to stay anchored in herself while navigating a relationship that still feels uneven—and who is wondering how to do that without resentment, self-abandonment, or losing herself in the process.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com
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    43 mins
  • #142 Why Your Body Doesn’t Trust Yet (Even If Your Brain Wants To)

    #142 Why Your Body Doesn’t Trust Yet (Even If Your Brain Wants To)
    Jan 15 2026
    “One of the most painful places couples get stuck after betrayal is right here: One partner is thinking, ‘We’re okay. Why can’t we move on?’ And the other is thinking, ‘I want to—but my body keeps panicking.’ And both end up wondering what’s wrong with them.In this episode, I want to explain why this disconnect happens—not because someone is resisting healing, but because the nervous system doesn’t work on logic or timelines. If you’ve ever felt frustrated, confused, or ashamed of your body’s response after betrayal, this conversation is for you.”Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly Connect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com
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    14 mins
  • BONUS Episode Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica

    BONUS Episode Rise, Renew Restore: A Transformative Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica
    Jan 10 2026

    In this special bonus episode, Hali Roderick is joined by her friends and trusted colleagues Amie Woolsey and Alana Gordon for a shared conversation about the heart, vision, and deeper purpose behind the Rise, Renew, Restore Women’s Retreat in Costa Rica.

    Together, we explore why this retreat is about so much more than getting away — it’s about creating true nervous-system relief, embodied healing, and a felt sense of safety that many women have been longing for after betrayal, burnout, and chronic emotional stress.

    We also unpack the meaning behind the name Rise, Renew, Restore, and how each part reflects the journey women move through when they step into a space designed not just for insight, but for deep, body-level change.

    Stay Connected with Me:

    Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences:

    The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

    Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

    Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

    If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

    The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

    Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community.

    Sign up for my Newsletter:

    Rooted and Rising Weekly

    Join the waitlist:

    Rooted and Rising: Reclaiming You Course

    Download my free:⁠⁠

    Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

    Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

    Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

    Connect on Instagram:⁠

    ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

    Follow on Facebook:⁠

    ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

    Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠
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    19 mins
  • #141 When “We’re Still Together” Isn’t the Same as Healing

    #141 When “We’re Still Together” Isn’t the Same as Healing
    Jan 8 2026
    Many couples stay together after infidelity—but staying together isn’t the same as healing.In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the quiet, often unspoken space many couples live in after betrayal: life looks calmer on the outside, but underneath there’s still tension, disconnection, or a sense of holding your breath.This conversation gently examines how avoidance can masquerade as peace, the difference between rugsweeping and real repair, and the signs that healing is actually happening—for both partners.This episode isn’t about pushing you toward a decision or creating pressure to “do more.” It’s about offering clarity without urgency, and honesty without self-abandonment.Connect With Me + Continue Your HealingJoin me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Join me at a Retreat or IntensiveIf you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Free Resources & DownloadsAccess free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!Listen to My Other PodcastIf you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠ Join My NewsletterStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyConnect With Me Between EpisodesJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com
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    20 mins
  • #140 Can You Really Heal After Betrayal?

    #140 Can You Really Heal After Betrayal?
    Jan 1 2026
    Can a relationship really heal after infidelity—or does staying just mean learning how to live with the pain?In this relaunch episode of Choosing To Stay After Infidelity & Betrayal, we’re slowing things down and getting honest about what healing actually requires. Whether you’re the betrayed partner wondering if you’ll ever feel safe again, or the partner who broke trust and wants to repair but doesn’t know how, this episode is an invitation to step out of fear-based decisions and into clarity.Healing after infidelity isn’t about going back to how things were. That relationship no longer exists. What’s possible—if both partners are willing—is building something new with more honesty, awareness, and intention than before.This episode sets the foundation for the year ahead: grounded, trauma-informed conversations about trust repair, emotional regulation, accountability, and discernment—without rushing forgiveness, minimizing pain, or offering false hope.Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:Connect with me at an Intensive or Retreat:If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners. The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust. Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal. 👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal👉Your First Steps to Rising After BetrayalUpcoming Course: Reclaiming You After BetrayalIf you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system. 👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal, created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma.This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 👉 Rooted and Rising Healing After BetrayalStay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences. 👉 Rooted and Rising WeeklyJoin me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between episodes. 👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing 👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick 👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.comIf this episode was helpful, I’d be grateful if you’d rate, review, and share the show. Your support helps other individuals and couples find trauma-informed resources when they need them most.
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    12 mins
  • #139 Renewed Commitment — Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal

    #139 Renewed Commitment — Doing Whatever It Takes to Mend Betrayal
    Dec 25 2025

    This episode is one of the early conversations that shaped the heart of this podcast, and we’re bringing it back because its message is just as important today as it was when it first aired. If you’re in the aftermath of betrayal or rebuilding a relationship after broken trust, this episode lays the groundwork for understanding what true repair requires.

    In this re-released conversation, we explore what a renewed commitment looks like from the unfaithful partner — not in words or promises, but in consistent action. Healing after betrayal begins when the betraying partner is willing to “do whatever it takes” to rebuild safety, honor the betrayed partner’s pain, and repair the relational bonds shattered by the breach.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali RoderickCertified Partner Coach

    TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach

    MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!


    Stay Connected with Hali:Download my free:⁠⁠

    Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

    Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

    Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

    Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

    Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

    Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠
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    33 mins
  • #138 Trauma Triage: What Couples Need in the Early Days After Betrayal

    #138 Trauma Triage: What Couples Need in the Early Days After Betrayal
    Dec 18 2025

    This special re-release revisits one of the most important conversations from our early episodes — an episode so foundational that we felt it needed to be heard again. If you or your spouse are in the early stages of betrayal trauma, discovery, or relational crisis, this conversation will give you the grounding, clarity, and practical steps you need to begin healing.

    In this re-released episode, we walk through what we call Trauma Triage — the immediate phase after betrayal when emotions are raw, the nervous system is overwhelmed, trust is shattered, and both partners are often flooded with fear, shame, confusion, and grief. This is the stage where calm, grounding support is crucial, but it’s also the time when couples feel least equipped to offer it.

    Thank you for tuning in!

    We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

    Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

    Your Hosts:

    Hali Roderick Certified Partner Coach

    TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

    Read Hali’s Bio

    Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach

    MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

    Read Stephanie’s Bio

    We look forward to journeying with you!

    Stay Connected with Hali:

    Download my free:⁠⁠

    Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal⁠⁠

    Download my free ebook:⁠ ⁠

    Your First Steps to Rising From Betrayal⁠⁠⁠⁠RootedAndRisingHealing.com⁠⁠

    Connect on Instagram:⁠ ⁠@rootedandrising.healing⁠⁠

    Follow on Facebook:⁠ ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick⁠⁠

    Contact: ⁠rootedandrisinghealing@gmail.com⁠
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    27 mins