Caroline Webb is a leadership coach, economist, and author of How to Have a Good Day, which has been published in over sixty countries. She has been named one of the top 50 executive coaches in the world by Thinkers50 and is Senior Advisor on leadership to McKinsey & Company, where she was previously a Partner. She is the author of Leadership Intelligence: Science-Backed Strategies for Mastering 21 Everyday Management Challenges (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Leaders are often called on to repair relationships for the benefit of everybody. When that relationship is a key stakeholder, it’s especially important to approach that process intentionally. In this conversation, Caroline and I detail the most important steps to help that repair go better.

• Many of us have power, even if it doesn’t feel like it. People with power find it hard to imagine others seeing things differently.
• Perspective-taking helps us open up the doors of possibility to collaborate better, even when our assumptions are wrong.
• A suspension bridge is a powerful analogy for a stakeholder relationship. Both sides must be strong and connected intentionally for the relationship to work.
• The first tower of the suspension bridge is the other party. What could be going on for them that would make their behavior make sense, without assuming bad intent?
• The second tower is you. Label what you’re feeling and get as specific as possible with your emotions.
• Strengthen the connection with cables through appreciation, involvement, and elevation.

To meet in the middle (the deck), these five steps will help in an interaction:

1. Intention: share your goal for the relationship.
2. Observation: describe what you factually observed without assumption of judgement.
3. Implication: explain why you care and what’s concerning you.
4. Invitation: ask their side of the story without making assumptions.
5. Collaboration: mutually problem-solve how to improve the situation.

• Leadership Intelligence: Science-Backed Strategies for Mastering 21 Everyday Management Challenges by Caroline Webb (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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• The Way to Get Noticed by Key Stakeholders, with Daphne E. Jones (episode 614)
• How to Start Better With Peers, with Michael Bungay Stanier (episode 635)

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Robyn Davis has been advising exhibitors across industries and around the world on the strategies that work at trade shows since 2009. As an award-winning speaker, trainer, and consultant, Robyn is known for her fresh perspective and process-driven approach to exhibitor success. She is the author of Exhibit Smarter: A Step-by-Step Guide to Trade Show Success (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Almost every professional has been to a trade show. A lot of us have represented our organizations at conferences and shows. And many leaders have trade shows somewhere in their portfolios. In this conversation, Robyn and I explore how to help your team engage the right people at these events to ensure the investment you’ve made is worth it.

• Prioritize strategic value over vanity metrics and activities. Tactics that get people into your booth aren’t necessarily the ones that line up with the needs of your organization.
• The decisions that organizations make about trade show activities are often heavily influenced by what’s been done in the past.

Use five steps to lead interactions inside your booth:

1. Welcome visitors with a targeted question that quickly identifies if a conversation is useful for both parties.
2. Create and use a qualification rubric for your team to quickly triage interactions.
3. Ensure smooth handoffs to the right party by making a personal introduction and relying on relevant details of whatever conversation has already taken place.
4. If the next step is an on-site meeting, make it concise (5-10 minutes) and follow up with a longer interaction later. If demoing a product or service, involve the visitor in the demonstration.
5. Close with a thank you, business card, brief review of the notes, next steps, and gracefully saying goodbye.

• Exhibit Smarter: A Step-by-Step Guide to Trade Show Success by Robyn Davis (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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• Serve Others Through Marketing, with Seth Godin (episode 381)
• The Reason People Make Buying Decisions, with Marcus Collins (episode 664)
• How High Performers Land New Business, with Matt Dixon (episode 736)

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Priya Parker is a facilitator, strategic advisor, bestselling author of The Art of Gathering, and executive producer and host of the New York Times podcast, Together Apart. Trained in the field of conflict resolution, she has spent 20 years guiding leaders and groups through complicated conversations about community, identity, and vision at moments of transition. She is the author of the new book, The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict (Amazon, Bookshop)*.

Often we assume that good leaders and good teams don’t fight. In this conversation, Priya tells us that, “Fighting is not the death of community. It is its lifeblood.” We explore how to turn conflict into progress.

• Even experts who handle group conflict often find it challenging, fearful, and unsettling.
• Becoming a durable, sustainable group does not happen without a fight.
• One of the biggest myths that hold leaders back is that “good” people and “good” groups don’t fight.
• There’s a seniority caveat to conflict. Leaders often confuse what needs to be felt with what needs to be said.
• It’s a lie to believe that “if only” one thing hadn’t happened that conflict would not have occurred. If it wasn’t that, it would have been something else.
• Milestones, transitions, schedule changes, and celebrations are often triggering events for conflict. Instead of thinking, “This is the worst timing,” expect conflict at these times.

• The Art of Fighting: The Transformative Power of Conflict by Priya Parker (Amazon, Bookshop)*

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• How to Create Meaningful Gatherings, with Priya Parker (episode 395)
• The Way Out of Major Conflict, with Amanda Ripley (episode 529)
• How to Help Difficult Conversations Go Better, with Sheila Heen (episode 655)

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