What happens when you're honest, vulnerable, and real... and still don't get what you want? Let's talk about showing up authentically and why it doesn't always work out the way you hope. I'll share two raw stories from my own life: getting stood up after putting myself out there, and ending things with someone I genuinely cared about because something just wasn't aligned. I break down why most people don't actually know how they feel (spoiler: thinking isn't feeling) and why your fear of being "too much" is really just fear of not being enough. I also walk through a listener situation about feeling worthless after a guy asks for space. If you've ever felt like you're the problem, been scared to speak from the heart, or stayed in something that felt good but wasn't right, this one's for you.

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I've been feeling different lately, at peace, confident, secure. Today, I will reflect on the reason I feel so present, and how you can too. I'll discuss how your desires, such as wanting a family, a relationship, and success, can hinder your happiness, but also your progress. Then I get into your questions: what to do when you’re feeling anxious over delayed texts, I'll discuss how to calm yourself down and handle the emotion in the moment. I'll talk about how true security is so much more than just feeling confident all the time. Then I'll touch on what to do when you're not physically attractive to them, and how to handle the excitement of meeting someone new, and how to not get too ahead of yourself.

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Have you ever been surrounded by people (even in a relationship) and still felt alone? That’s because loneliness isn’t about being alone, it's what happens when your sense of self is tied to something outside of you … so when connection disappears, you feel like you disappear. In this episode, I break down why most people feel lonely, why we’re scared of it, and how a lot of us are way more codependent than we think (we just call it “love” or “attachment” to make it sound prettier). I also asked you guys what you’re battling internally in your love life right now, and I respond to the stuff I see nonstop: why being single after a long relationship feels brutal, why it’s so hard to let go when someone makes you feel whole for the first time in forever, and why the second they switch up, you’re desperate to get that feeling back. Then I get into what “doing the work” actually is. This episode is a bid to help you start trusting yourself and letting go of the fear of being misunderstood.

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People think self-love is taking yourself on a date or going to the gym, but that's just the surface. In this episode, I share what true self-love is and how to practice it. I'll break down the difference between desire and attachment, and I'll go through the components of our emotions and how we project our feelings onto others instead of owning them ourselves. I share a specific example of how I was triggered in my relationship, how I reacted (needy, angry), and had to take a step back and work through my reaction. Through my personal example, I'll help you unpack your triggers and fears in a relationship and how to overcome them. It's a brand new season (and new year), buckle up because we are going deeper than ever before.

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Last episode of the year, it has been a heck of a journey, and we have a great one for you. I start with a personal story of letting go of unintentional connections and the difference between high standards and seeking perfection. I'll tell you why your situationship might seem okay, but how it might actually be blocking you from true love. Speaking of which, I then share a powerful conversation I had with two close guy friends, one recently engaged, and how hearing him talk about feeling inspired by his partner shifted something big for me (I think it will for you too). Finally, I then reflect on: “I’m single and healed… and now I don't want anyone." We will see about that! See you on the otherside.

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Don't tell me you love me if you want to keep me ... In this episode, I dive deep into how softness and avoidance go hand in hand. How everyone is a mirror and how our patterns keep replaying in dating without realizing it. I'll show you why you attract people who can’t fully meet you, why vulnerability feels risky even when it’s the thing we want most, and how the people we date end up reflecting the parts of ourselves we’re still avoiding.

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Isn’t it funny how the “prize” for being such a boss is you now take care of everything? In this episode, I get into what healthy masculine and feminine energy actually look like in real life: direction, stability, container vs. receptivity, amplification, flow. I'll discuss why so many strong, high-performing women end up stuck in their masculine without realizing it (and spoiler, it’s not because you’re “too much). I walk through an 8-year relationship story to show you how breadcrumbs work, how your identity gets tied to hope, and how mixed signals are just an avoidance of the truth.

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You call it chemistry, your nervous system calls it chaos. I cover a bunch of your situationship questions such as: how soon is too soon, how long is too long, when detachment feels impossible, toxic exs, divorce, empty I love yous, ghost sightings, and finally standing up. This isn't just about situationships, it's a masterclass in letting go of everything you thought you knew about who you are and stepping into the most authentic version of yourself. Today, you are done chasing to be chosen.

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