In this episode of the Connected Pleasure Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Jordin Wiggins —naturopathic doctor, author, coercive control clinician, and dominatrix-trained pleasure strategist—for a powerful, nuanced conversation about desire, power, and why so many successful women feel disconnected in their intimate lives.

Jordin works with women who have done “everything right” on paper—careers, families, achievements—yet feel numb, exhausted, and unseen in their relationships. Together, we explore the concept of “super traits”: extreme empathy, loyalty, forgiveness, and over-functioning, traits that often lead women into relational dynamics where desire disappears and intimacy becomes extractive rather than nourishing.

We unpack why traditional therapy and common relationship advice often fails women with super traits, how power imbalances go unaddressed in patriarchal models of intimacy, and why pleasure is not the reward for healing—but the reset that makes real connection possible.

This conversation also dives into:

1. How over-functioning and under-functioning dynamics erode desire and safety
2. Why scheduling sex, “just setting boundaries,” or trying harder often backfires
3. The role of sexual coercion and invisible power contracts in long-term relationships
4. How patriarchy harms everyone—including men—and why more men are now seeking this work
5. Pleasure as a nervous system capacity, not a performance
6. The importance of learning to tolerate sensation—both pleasure and pain
7. Feminine and masculine energy, safety, and the ability to truly receive
8. What BDSM teaches us about consent, power, desire, and embodied choice

Jordin shares how her own journey—from chronic health issues and a sexless marriage to pleasure-centered healing—led her to integrate functional medicine, trauma awareness, and embodied power work into a method that helps women move from survival-based intimacy into true receiving.

This episode is an invitation to question the stories you’ve been told about love, sex, and responsibility—and to remember that desire must be freely chosen, not managed, negotiated, or earned.

Pleasure is not indulgent.

It is information.

And it is a pathway home.

Connect with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

1. Instagram: @drjordinwiggins
2. Take the Super Traits Quiz
3. Listen to The Pleasure Principles Podcast

If you’re feeling called to stay in touch with Kayla:

In this episode of the Connected Pleasure Podcast, I’m joined by Wren Morrow, an outdoor boudoir and erotic adventure photographer based in the Pacific Northwest. Wren guides individuals and couples through deeply embodied, sensual experiences in wild places—using photography as a portal back into the body, pleasure, and belonging.

We explore how Wren’s work emerged organically through van life, nature immersion, and embodiment practices, and why outdoor boudoir is about so much more than taking photos. What’s being offered is an experience—an invitation to slow down, shed shame, and remember what it feels like to belong in your body and on the earth.

Wren shares her powerful perspective on boudoir as fluorescence—the unfurling of a human being willing to be seen. We talk about shame as the instinct to close back into the bud, and pleasure as the courage to open, soften, and take up space. Together, we unpack how body image, motherhood, trauma, and cultural conditioning disconnect us from our sensuality—and how play, nature, and sensation help restore it.

This conversation also dives into:

1. Why embodiment and pleasure are birthrights—not reserved for “perfect” bodies
2. How nature mirrors our own “imperfections” as stories of resilience and becoming
3. The reclamation and bravery involved in being nude in wild spaces
4. Holding consent, safety, and boundaries during outdoor erotic art sessions
5. Group shoots, feminine friendship, and the healing power of shared experience
6. Men, shame, vulnerability, and the complexities of holding erotic space across genders
7. Navigating power dynamics, safety, and tenderness with integrity

We close with reflections on the divine feminine and masculine, the harm patriarchy has caused everyone, and the importance of moving toward a future rooted in embodiment, pleasure, responsibility, and collective healing.

This episode is an invitation to soften, unfurl, and remember:

Your body is not wrong.

Your scars are stories.

And pleasure begins with presence.

Connect with Wren Morrow:

1. Website: https://www.wrenmorrow.com/
2. Social Media: @_wrenmorrow

If you’re feeling called to stay in touch with Kayla:

1. Join the waitlist for the Sacred Desire course - Beta starts January 21st 2026!
2. Book your Liberation Wisdom session
3. Join my Newsletter Community

In this episode of the Connected Pleasure Podcast, I’m joined by Eve Hall — pelvic floor physical therapist, intimacy coach, and host of the Please Me Podcast — for a powerful conversation about sexual health, orgasm equality, and women reclaiming their pleasure.

We explore why the orgasm gap exists, how cultural conditioning and misinformation about women’s bodies impact intimacy, and why penetrative sex alone is rarely enough for most women. Eve breaks down female arousal, the importance of time, blood flow, and clitoral stimulation, and why pleasure is something that can be learned, expanded, and reclaimed.

We also talk about Big Clit Energy — the confidence and vitality that comes from knowing your body and owning your desire — and how closing the orgasm gap benefits everyone, not just women.

This episode is educational, affirming, and deeply empowering for anyone ready to stop settling and start experiencing pleasure as a vital part of wellbeing.

Connect with Eve Hall:

1. Website: https://pleaseme.online
2. Contact Page and Social Media: https://pleaseme.online/get-in-touch/
3. Substack Newsletter: https://pleaseme.substack.com
4. Patreon (Ad-Free & Bonus Content): https://patreon.com/PleaseMePodcast
5. Shameless Care: https://shamelesscare.com/

If you’re feeling called to stay in touch with Kayla:

1. Join the waitlist for the Sacred Desire course
2. Book your Liberation Wisdom session
3. Join my Newsletter Community
4. Support this podcast and leave me a tip!
5. Book 45 minute consultation
6. Email me at kayla@connectedpleasurecoaching.com with any questions