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Dad-Life Balance Ep. -- 006

Dad-Life Balance Ep. -- 006

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 How do we balance being a dad and still being a human being.? I love being a dad but dadding non-stop makes me delirious and I begin not liking my kid. In reality, it’s a reflection of how part of me feels about the rest of me which is then projected outward to be noticed and addressed. I’ve come to distinctly recognize 3 different elements of myself; ego, human, and spirt / higher self. Carl Jung aptly named them the id, ego and super-ego. Each part of “myself” has different needs, wants and desires. Part of walking a spiritual path is learning how to align all those parts of ourselves to one focus and walk through life in what is often-referred to as “heart centered.” This entails operating from a more calm, balanced, and neutral state as to avoid emotional reactions and instead make rational decisions. One of the biggest issues I’ve had to deal with since exiting the Corps has been emotional regulation. A big reason I avoided committed relationships and having a family until now was because I couldn’t manage my emotions worth anything and the idea of hurting the people closest to me was out of the question. I became selfish and self-serving while not actually serving myself properly. My wife Heather has truly helped me earn back my big boy pants — emotionally speaking again by weathering the tornadoes and hurricanes that have come her way. Standing tall as my mirror, she helped me see that — how I was being was not in-fact who I am and I am capable of so much more. I began to observe, through our relationship, that I often stopped serving myself when others were around to serve. I would go above and beyond, running myself ragged, as I tried to be perfect for those around me. The self-neglect would go unnoticed and eventually I would blow up and out at the very people I’m doing everything to serve perfectly. Then my baby girl comes along and although she is a tiny, able-less being, I’m still finding myself getting bitter and resentful towards her as time goes on and I ware down. I don’t want to raise my daughter with a cold-shoulder or a trist tongue, so now is the time to check this; what am I doing wrong? I’m serving everyone else but myself. I’m living selflessly selfish and in-turn pissing in everybody’s cheerios who I love and take care of. It’s not about wanting to take proper care of myself, it’s a necessity that I do or I will destroy all that I’ve climbed tooth and nail to attain. The choice is mine alone to make. So what is a Dad-Life Balance? What does it entail? Let’s dive in. Follow our social media pages: Facebook: ⁠https://www.facebook.com/share/1FWsPpcm3H/?mibextid=wwXIfr⁠ YouTube: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/@VeteranDadPodcast⁠ LinkedIn: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/groups/13261037/⁠ Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/veteran_dad_podcast?igsh=a3M4OWY4ajN3bHg%3D&utm_source=qr⁠ X/Twitter: ⁠https://x.com/VetDadPodcast⁠ Shoot us an email with any questions or requests at: veterandadpodcast@gmail.com
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