Hey Guys,

In this episode, I unpack the idea of outsourcing worth—the deeply learned pattern of looking outside ourselves for validation, safety, and permission to feel good. For many of us, this starts early, long before we ever think about buying things or organizing our homes.

I share a story that shaped how I understood this pattern: watching someone's confidence and radiance disappear the moment another person disapproved. When you grow up learning that someone else can "turn off the light," you adapt. You manage. You perform. And eventually, you start giving your power away—to people, to perfection, and to stuff.

This is the hidden reason decluttering feels so charged.

Perfectionism, overbuying, and paralysis aren't character flaws. They're survival strategies rooted in fear and conditioning. The urge to replace the missing placemat, wait until everything is "just right," or avoid decluttering altogether isn't about aesthetics—it's about control and safety.

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🛑 Disclaimer:

I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or mental health professional. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing emotional distress or mental health concerns, please seek help from a qualified mental health provider for more helpful tips and updates.

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When I partner with a brand, I may receive compensation for sharing it here.
I only talk about products I've personally chosen to bring into my own home and life, and I never recommend anything I wouldn't use myself.

Guys,

You know that moment when you think, "I should just deal with this," and instead you shut down and walk away?
And then you spiral into "I can't get anything done" mode?

That's what we're solving in today's episode.

The number one thing you need to do to get rid of clutter isn't organizing.

It's changing the way you think about it.

Because thoughts create feelings.
Feelings create behavior.
And behavior is what keeps clutter in place—or allows it to shift.

💫If you want to go deeper and have support decluttering your home consistently, the year-long program is open. You can find all the details at declutteryourchaos.com.

✨Come home to yourself. ✨

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If this episode helped you, please leave a review or share it with someone who needs it.

Looking forward to seeing your progress in the free Facebook group. To join click below...

Download my free decluttering planner here: https://declutteryourchaos.com/decluttering-planner

Let's connect:
📸 Instagram: @declutteryourchaos
🌐 Website: www.declutteryourchaos.com

🛑 Disclaimer:

I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or mental health professional. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing emotional distress or mental health concerns, please seek help from a qualified mental health provider for more helpful tips and updates.

Sponsored Content Disclosure:
Some episodes include references to products I genuinely use and love.
When I partner with a brand, I may receive compensation for sharing it here.
I only talk about products I've personally chosen to bring into my own home and life, and I never recommend anything I wouldn't use myself.

Hey Guys,

At the end of this episode I share a five minute decluttering meditation. By the end of this episode, you'll have a simple three-step process to take back your space — without shame, without force, and without waiting for your house to be perfect first.

Most people believe:

"When my home is organized, THEN I'll feel calm."
"When everything is in place, THEN I'll be happy."
"When I finally get ahead, THEN my life will flow.

Clutter is not the cause.

It's the mirror.

Your life runs on this loop:

Thoughts → Feelings → Behavior

When you change the way you think about your clutter, you change the way you feel about it — and that changes how you act.

"What is this here to teach me?"
"What do I get to learn?"
"What do I get to choose next?"

That shift moves you out of victimhood and into authority.

💫If you want to go deeper and have support decluttering your home consistently, the year-long program is open. You can find all the details at declutteryourchaos.com.

✨Come home to yourself. ✨

Head to Cozy Earth and use my code DECLUTTER for 20% off and experience the softest sheets you can find: https://cozyearth.com/

If this episode helped you, please leave a review or share it with someone who needs it.

Looking forward to seeing your progress in the free Facebook group. To join click below...

Download my free decluttering planner here: https://declutteryourchaos.com/decluttering-planner

Let's connect:
📸 Instagram: @declutteryourchaos
🌐 Website: www.declutteryourchaos.com

🛑 Disclaimer:

I am not a licensed therapist, counselor, or mental health professional. This podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing emotional distress or mental health concerns, please seek help from a qualified mental health provider for more helpful tips and updates.

Sponsored Content Disclosure:
Some episodes include references to products I genuinely use and love.
When I partner with a brand, I may receive compensation for sharing it here.
I only talk about products I've personally chosen to bring into my own home and life, and I never recommend anything I wouldn't use myself.