We are kicking off season 3 of with a new episode of Dil Ki Recipes by Dr. Sheeza Mohsin! Today, I sit down with Sana Kheiri, CPC, ELI-MP, CPDS — a certified coach who helps South Asian families raise emotionally aware and compassionate teens.

Together, we unpack why Desi parents often misunderstand their teenagers, how emotional energy shapes daily interactions, and what it looks like to move from control to connection.

Whether you're a parent overwhelmed by constant conflict or a teen caught between two worlds, this episode offers practical and culturally grounded insights into:

• Understanding your teen’s emotional energy

• Shifting from blame to belonging

• Breaking generational patterns around achievement and respect

• Creating safe spaces for emotional honesty

💬 Guest: Sana Kheiri (@claritycoaching)🌐 yourclaritycoach.net📖 Also mentioned: Dr. Sheeza’s book Behind Closed Doors available here: https://www.amazon.com/Behind-Closed-Doors-Emotional-conflicting/dp/1661168493

⏱ TIMESTAMPS:

0:46 – Who is Sana Kheiri?

2:48 – What “energy” means in coaching

3:39 - Energy levels: survival mode vs. awareness/compassion

4:24 - What parents should notice about their teenagers' energy

5:02 - South Asian families and duty/achievement-focused energy

6:18 – How to shift from blame to connection in parent-teen relationships

7:42 – Desi teens and the exhaustion of code-switching

8:01 - Case example: 16-year-old girl hiding herself to avoid disappointing mom

8:41 - Programming kids to disconnect emotionally

9:17 - Importance of asking open-ended questions

9:56 - Parents misreading teen behavior as rejection

10:54 - Stigma around working with coaches/therapists in Desi community

11:33 – Stigma around therapy and coaching

13:00 - Perfectionism in Desi culture ("nothing to fix")

15:48 - Guiding parents: moving from control to curiosity

16:49 – How to ask better questions as a parent

17:10 - Balancing "we" of culture and "me" of individual identity

17:46 - Homes as places of belonging vs. places of performance

19:49 – Telling kids “I understand how hard it is”

20:06 - Kids challenged by social belonging, not academics

22:05 - The word "respect" in Desi culture

22:45 – Red flags: When kids seem “too perfect”

23:52 - Respect is earned vs. given based on age

24:33 - Treating children with respect at home and in public

24:50 - Final message for teenagers: "Your worth isn't measured by approval"

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How emotionally intelligent are we—and how can we help the next generation do even better?🌱

Emotional Intelligence expert Hiba Tanvir (@ht_compassion) unpacks why EQ is the REAL foundation for success—at home, in school, and at work on Dil Ki Recipes with Dr. Sheeza Mohsin.

Hiba Tanvir is a thought leader in Emotional Intelligence (EI) and the founder of HT Compassion, a boutique consulting firm dedicated to integrating EI into leadership and organizational development. Her innovative approach blends cutting-edge brain science with real-world application, empowering individuals and teams to drive meaningful, lasting change.

💬 “I help individuals, leaders, and teams FEEL better at work and home—merging the science of Emotional Intelligence with the creativity of Play-Doh, crayons, and wooden blocks.” - Hiba Tanvir

Connect with Hiba:

Facebook: @Hiba Tanvir

Instagram: @ht_compassion

YouTube: HT Compassion

Website: www.htcompassion.com

Book: Available here on Amazon / https://a.co/d/dPpyLSC

TIMESTAMPS ⏲00:41 — What Is Emotional Intelligence in Real Life?

02:00 — Hiba’s Background & Book Launch

04:15 — Why Emotional Intelligence Really Matters

06:50 — EQ in Parenting: Normalizing Struggles

08:14 — “Kumon for Emotional Intelligence” Analogy

08:55–09:55 — “Name It to Tame It” Technique

11:44 — Play-Doh Exercise for Emotional Regulation

12:45 — South Asian Parenting & Emotional Development

13:38 — Delayed Independence in South Asian Children

16:37 — How EQ Shapes Academic & Career Success

18:27–20:00 — EQ in the AI Era (Modern Workplace Context)

25:30 — Gender, Culture, and Emotions: Boys vs. Girls

27:19–End — Final Reflections & How to Learn More

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NEW EPISODE OUT NOW: Featuring Dr. Asra Khan, this week’s episode dives deep into the realities South Asian and Muslim communities often hesitate to confront. From premarital prep and communication gaps to gender roles, social media pressures, and what “compatibility” really means — it’s time for honest conversations.

TIMESTAMPS

02:22 — The topic: Marriage challenges and divorce in the South Asian community

04:30 — Rising divorce rates and the need for community awareness

04:50 — The importance of premarital preparation and communication

05:03 — Communication gaps in South Asian and Muslim communities

05:41 — Social and cultural barriers to partner selection

06:17 — The impact of social media and unrealistic expectations

07:27 — Emotional maturity and individual growth before marriage

08:45 — Cultural myths: “Two halves make a whole” and partner compatibility

10:07 — Gender roles, empowerment, and changing expectations for men and women

12:04 — Social currency of marriage, stigma around divorce, and generational shifts

14:24 — Community standards: Education, age, and financial status in partner selection

15:54 — When to consider divorce: Safety, abuse, and chronic issues

18:08 — The importance of premarital due diligence and family involvement

19:45 — Collectivist culture: Family, community, and therapy perspectives

21:00 — The need for balance, support systems, and healthy outlets in marriage

22:42 — Emotional intelligence, attachment, and compatibility as key factors

🧠 Have a question or want to share your thoughts? Leave a comment below!

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