In this episode of My Mother's Trauma, host Kim Loliya explores how different cultures relate to the dead during this season of collective remembrance. Kim reflects on a personal experience from 2023 of experiencing Day of the Dead while in Mexico and the significance of community and intergenerational inclusion in processing grief. The conversation delves into the complexities of grief work, the role of joy and the importance of decolonial approaches and rituals that make space for rage and authenticity. Kim encourages listeners to find their own ways to honour their loved ones, which can also include choosing not to do that if it doesn’t feel safe or appropriate to do so.

CHAPTERS

00:00 Introduction to Intergenerational Trauma

05:20 The Benefits of Time Travel

10:52 Day of the Dead Season

16:54 Complicated Feelings About The Dead

20:13 Reimagining Ancestral Work

22:28 Realistic Remembrance

28:52 Outro

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EPISODE LINKS

• Transcript –You can find the transcript here
• ​​How Madagascar Celebrates the Day of the Dead
• Visiting A Voodou Ceremony, Haiti - Fet Gede - Day of the Dead
• Events – Tickets and further information can be found here
• Event - Honouring the Dead, Honouring the Living, on 10th November, online. Tickets can be purchased here
• Event - Justice in Therapy, on 30th November at The Advocacy Academy, Brixton. Tickets can be purchased here

CREDITS

• Artwork – Kim Loliya in collaboration with DALL-E
• Editor & Producer – ZShed Productions