Most people don’t say the wrong thing because they’re cruel.

They say the wrong thing because they were never taught how to meet grief.

When someone we love is grieving, words often rush in where presence should be.

Comfort turns into fixing.

Silence turns into forced meaning.

Fear turns into phrases that unintentionally isolate the person who is already hurting.

This episode exists because grief doesn’t need to be explained away. It needs to be witnessed.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• Why people say things like “everything happens for a reason” or “they’re in a better place”
• How comments meant to comfort can land as dismissive or painful
• What a griever is often feeling internally when these things are said...the anger, disbelief, exhaustion, or urge to pull away
• Why grief creates distance in relationships, even when there’s love
• And what grief actually wants instead

We also explore what can be helpful to say when words fail and why sometimes the most supportive thing is simply staying present without trying to fix the pain. You don’t need perfect language to meet grief well. You just need honesty, humility, and the willingness to stay.

Disclaimer

This podcast is for education, reflection, and support — not medical or mental health advice.

If you are struggling or in crisis, please reach out to a trusted person or professional.

Comments

Comments are open for reflection and presence — not advice, fixing, or debate.

Anything harmful or dismissive will be removed to protect this space.

Contact Me

If something in this episode resonated and you’d like to share your story, say hello, or simply be witnessed, you’re welcome to reach out.

You don’t need the right words.

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