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Rooms can sell out in a week or two, themes go hard, and the energy can feel like a mini EDM festival, so if you’ve ever wondered how iCandy parties actually work, we lay it out from the inside. We’re recording from Secrets in Kissimmee, Florida during a First Friday weekend, and we walk you through what to expect when you show up, how the crowd feels, and how to avoid the common booking mistakes that trip people up.

We break down the two main iCandy formats: the Secrets hotel takeovers (three big weekends a year with a multi-night commitment) and the Colette’s club events (typically a Saturday night party without the hotel piece). We also share why people travel in groups from all over the US and beyond, how big these nights can get, and what makes the vibe feel welcoming even when it looks like everyone already knows each other.

Then we get practical: how to book takeovers through iCandyParties.com, why you should join the email newsletter for room-release alerts, where to follow iCandy on Instagram and Facebook, and how the merch tent works. We also give our best “just the tips” advice on going all out for the party themes and using the room crawl as the easiest way to meet people fast.

Finally, we answer a listener mailbag question about games in the lifestyle, including when games are a fun icebreaker, when they get pushy, and why “read the room” is the rule that saves everyone’s night. If you enjoy lifestyle travel, swingers events, and real talk about community and consent, hit subscribe, share the show with a friend, and leave us a review so more people can find us.

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